Tuesday, 29 December 2009

New Moon Book Review

New Moon the second book in the Twilight Saga.

How many pages can an author write about depression in a novel that is geared towards teenagers?? Well apparently around 400 pages or so. Can you find a more pathetic child in all literature?? You want to tell me that Bella is suicidal because Edward left her??? Huh?? It doesn't work with the character they began to create in the first book.

Bella in the first novel started out as some what of a loner. She was boring and a little plain. Maybe that was the authors intention to make her so plain in comparison to her Vampire family, if it was then she succeed!! But to have Bella turn into a snivelling zombie in New Moon, well that's ridiculous. You mean to tell me that Bella can't be whole without a boy in her life??? Is that really the message we want to send out to teen age girls?? Then Bella becomes happy again because she's hanging out with another BOY. She couldn't hang out with her girlfriends and become happy, she can only be happy if she is with a boy. A boy who developed into quite an interesting character. I really enjoyed Jacob, he was a great character, well developed and exciting. I just don't understand how these secondary characters always seem to get so much more life than her protagonist.

However, New Moon was more interesting then Twilight. My only issue is that again in this novel she left all the action for the last 200 pages. It's like she drones on and on for pages and pages about nothing then realizes that she should end the story before it reaches 1000 pages but she hasn't even laid any real plot progressions until the end.

If you are a mother of teen age or tween aged girls make sure you sit down and talk to them about how not to be like Bella. We don't need a bunch of snivelling girls in society that become obsessed with a boy and get buried in depression when it doesn't work out with him.

Christmas Celebrations

This year was a busy year for Christmas in our house. Not as busy as some people's Christmases but busy enough. We had Christmas at my mom's house first and then we came home and had Christmas at our house with Adrian's family.

Christmas travelling is interesting. The boys and I flew to Saskatoon on a seat sale with Westjet, then Adrian drove out on Christmas Eve. Adrian, Leigham and I then drove back to Red Deer on Boxing Day. And no I am not sad I did not go Boxing Day Sale shopping. I hate shopping during Boxing Day.

While in Saskatchewan I was able to make it to Prince Albert to do some visiting with my Aunty Lila, my step-dad Emile and my friend Estelle. Then my Grandma, Leigham and I drove back to Saskatoon to prepare for Christmas. I was not able to see everyone I wanted to visit in Prince Albert but next time maybe I will stay longer. While in Saskatoon I was able to visit with Karen and Michelle but I was not able to meet up with Sharon or Roxann. Next time they are top on the priority list. Christmas is sometimes a bad time to try to get together because we are all growing up and expanding our families.

This experience has really allowed me to appreciate what my mom used to go through with us children. Hauling us around with all our gifts and then having to haul all those gifts back. Not a lot of fun. No wonder my mom started hosting Christmas and then taking us to see Grandma and Art on Boxing Day or later on Christmas. It just made things easier. So now the torch has been passed on to me. As of next year I will be hosting Christmas at my house and my family will come to me. I think this will be much better.

Leigham was so not interested in Christmas, he slept through his gift opening. It was nice seeing him interacting with Adrian after being away for a week. He was happy and all smiles for Dad, he may be a momma's boy but he loves his dad. Now Christmas is over and it's time to get back to every day living. Next up New Year's Resolutions.

Monday, 28 December 2009

Twilight Book Review

So after much delay I have finally read the Twilight Saga. I have a few concerns with this series, and I am not sure how any parent of a teen girl could let their child read this story without having a conversation with them either before or after. Seriously, I...... well I will break down this series review to each book, that may keep my rantings down to a minimum.

The overall writing of the book was moderately pleasing. She was able to create a setting that was believable and well described. It was easy to picture the story as it played out. The plot was interesting if nothing else, but not especially captivating. Her description of the characters was clear and I was able to picture these four vampires trying to blend in with society. I am not sure if the casting director of the movie made the right decision, but I was able to mold my view of Edward into the actor from the movie. As for the main character of Bella, well I didn't like her. I don't like her and I had difficulty finding any redeeming characteristics in her. She was whiny, and obsessive and plain. Not liking the main character makes it difficult to enjoy reading the book.

I didn't like Bella because of the message she was sending to the girls that would read her book. It's hard enough being a girl in today's society, you don't need authors writing stories about weak girls who can only find happiness on the arms of some guy. That is Bella's greatest fault. She could only be happy when she was with Edward. She avoids her friends when she is with Edward. She is self deprecating, she doesn't see her own worth.

I do not read a lot of romance novels, so I will not remark on the romance part of this story, but I will say this I was not interested in the story until Chapter 17, that is 3/4 of the way through the novel. I pushed myself through the story, and I can't say I am happy I did it, but I am not a quitter so I am proud that I made it through the book. I do not think a book is a good story if it takes 400 pages before it gets interesting. Much of the novel was unnecessary fluff.

The other complaint of this book is the overt foreshadowing. Certain characters are thrown in to the story and forcefully shown to be important. The lack of subtlety is discouraging.

Overall the first novel in the Cullen saga was ok. I do feel that Edward was a more endearing character and it would have been a better story told from his perspective. Maybe some fan fiction could tell the story of Edward and Bella from Bella's perspective.

If anyone can tell me what they liked about Twilight I will listen and contemplate your opinions, maybe it will help me see what was so enthralling that caused teen fever in so many young girls.

Monday, 14 December 2009

Christmas Shopping

I think I may finally be done Christmas shopping, well almost. I feel like I say that every year. Every year I want to be done early and every year I am still buying Christmas presents right up until the last moment. It's ridiculous really.

I am not sure if the people in Red Deer have heard this or not but we are in a RECESSION!!! I am sure that most of the citizens of Red Deer did not receive that memo. Point in fact today, today is a Monday, schools are still in session and people have JOBS that they need to be at. So I was surprised, shocked really, to find that half the population of Red Deer had converged upon Costco this afternoon. It was Saturday afternoon busy in there today. I wanted to go on Monday because I thought it wouldn't be as busy. Boy was I wrong. What should have been a fifteen minute trip in and out took an hour because I stood in the check out line for twenty minutes, and then another ten minutes in the get out of the store line. I also spent a little more time inside because I had nothing better to do. I think after this Christmas the economy should be fine, I mean the good citizens of Red Deer are stimulating this economy and I am sure it looks the same everywhere else.

Now I have one more stop to go for my Christmas shopping then I am done, one more stop. Well maybe two more...maybe three.. lol who knows I am trying to be done, but I just like buying my children presents :S

Christmas Cards

So it is the season to send out holiday greetings to those near and dear to us no matter how far away. It is at this time that my road to hell is paved. I have the best intentions to send out cards and most of the time I actually do write these cards out but it takes acts of God to get those cards to the post office. Seriously, I found a card addressed to my cousin that had a picture from Chandler's first Christmas, that's how bad I am at this.

So I have all my Christmas cards written up now and I am gathering all the addresses I need and I am going out to deliver the other ones. That is my plan and I hope that I accomplish it soon. I am going to go this week and send out those cards because I have to do it this year!!

Wish me luck!!!

Friday, 11 December 2009

Renovations

So this year I was able to purchase my first house. It is a four level split with a huge yard. Well I think the yard is huge. It's on a corner lot and faces to the north. The only real downfall of the house is that it faces a trailer park. But the trailer park isn't that bad at least what I can see of it look esthetically nice. It's a little sketchy in who lives in that trailer park and the problems the city has with some of those residence but other residence in the same trailer park are working to make it a safer place to live. So really it is six of one and half a dozen of the other.

The house was built in 1980, next year it will be thirty years old. So needless to say, but I am going to say it anyways, it has some projects that need to be completed to make it a real home. I am not sure what the guy who owned the place before we bought it was thinking but he was insane. He painted a huge room sunflower yellow and a hallway. It's not a horrible colour but in that large an area it was overwhelming. That was the first project, paint the hallway and the room. Which we did. The shingles on the roof were done, they needed to be replaced so we got that done as well. We had two furnaces, and neither of them worked, so we had them replaced with one high efficiency furnace. Those were projects that we got onto right away.

But that was not all that needed to be done with the house. He laid down laminate in almost every room. The laminate isn't bad, but the joints in the laminate that lead from room to room or cover tops of stairs, aren't even the proper joints, so those have to be replaced. I think he had something against baseboards as there are very few throughout the house. The deck is an accident waiting to happen, the railing posts are so far apart a two year old can fit through them and fall the two and half feet to the ground. My neighbour has informed me that their toddler did just that as well. We have one level that needs to be redone, it's the basement level, so it's not too bad. Our bedroom needs new carpet or flooring and the hallway needs the flooring replaced as well. He laid down laminate tiles and strips but didn't lift the old laminate up so the "new" stuff is lifting and needs to be redone. And countless other little projects to really upgrade this home into something that isn't found straight out of the eighties.

It's a big undertaking and I think it's something that will keep me busy as soon as a start choosing projects to work on. I am excited about it but I only want to do a little at time. One reason is so that I can pay for these projects and not use credit and a second reason is I don't want to start lots of projects and then not get anything done the way I really want it because I get frustrated with living in a construction zone. So let us enter into the world of renovations....

If anyone has any ideas or websites that offer advice and suggestions for unique renovation ideas I would appreciate your input to directing me there. I will keep a running commentary and supply pictures as these projects get under way!!!

Thursday, 10 December 2009

WHY oh WHY

So I have places to go and things to do... as everyone does, but in the winter it's so damn difficult to get anything done. Not because of the busy holiday season, or because there's more events coming up that you have to plan for. No none of those things make it difficult to complete tasks, they force you to be more organized with your time, but as soon as you think you are organized that evil entity enters the picture. You know who I am speaking about, Mr. Weatherman. I refuse to blame this situation on Mother Nature because a Mother would know how important it is to be able to complete things in a timely manner.

Today for example I wanted to take a quick trip to Innisfail, it's a small town, twenty minutes from my driveway. To get to Innisfail I must drive on the Queen Elizabeth 2nd(QE2) Highway or take Highway 2A. Now the QE2 is a double lane highway and it basically runs from one end of Alberta to the other north and south. The 2A is a secondary highway that was replaced by the QE2 long ago, but it's still a decent highway. Just not today! I had chosen to do this quick trip to Innisfail today because I had to leave my house anyways for a Doctor's appointment for little man and myself. I figured since I had to go out anyways I might as well do it all in one day that way I don't have to do it next week.

It is December in Canada, I understand that it snows, I even acccept it. What bothers me is that stupid Murphy guy. You know Murphey's Law, if it can happen it probably will happen. So yeah, today it's snowing, not a blizzard, but snowing enough to make the roads slick and to increase the stupidity of other drivers. I did a bit of driving today from the Northend of Red Deer to the Southend, I took the QE2, I thought well AMA is saying the roads are in poor conditions but that hadn't been updated since 6:00 am, I thought maybe something had changed. Nope I was wrong!!! The roads were slick, ice covered, and there was blowing snow and the IDIOTS on the road. In a six kilometer drive I saw four vehicles in the ditch, two Hondas (which is neither here nor there) and two trucks (one of the trucks was a Kal Tire truck the other a dodge Ram 4x4). So that kiobosched my plans to go to Innisfail today and now I have to try on another day.

I am going to stop planning these trips and just go when it's nice, because whenever I plan ahead something comes up to foil my plans.
Why oh Why does this always happen to me????

Wednesday, 9 December 2009

December 8, 2008

So yesterday marked the one year anniversary of my father's passing. It was a horrible day. The only good thing about it is last year the temperature was warmer where I was.

I was in California trying to get my dad's estate organized because he was on life support in the hospital and the doctors refused to cooperate with the family so as it looked like he would be there indefinitely we were planning on heading home. We had already been down for five weeks by this time. The doctors said he was not going to come off life support but because of outside influences the hospital would not move him to comfort care where he could pass away with dignity and with his family surrounding him. While my mother and I were taking care of his business so we could keep his house up and running from Canada my dad laid in his hospital bed alone. Only the sounds of the ventilator and cooling blanket for company.

Traffic sucked on the 580. There was a big accident and it literally took us an hour to drive a mile. We were tired, driving from Fremont to Discovery Bay is a long trek with good traffic, but when you are in bumper to bumper traffic it is horrendous. We stopped at a Target to do some shopping (I love Target, why is there not one in Canada?!?!) I bought some Christmas presents and some clothes. It was of a small comfort to do some retail therapy. We got back to my father's house in Discovery Bay and fixed supper. My friend Darlene came over with her children and we had a little supper. I had forgotten my cell phone in the truck so after Darlene had left I went to go grab it. Not because I thought any one had called but I was hoping for some text messages from home. I looked at my phone and there was a voicemail on it.

The voicemail was from the hospital, the Kaiser in Antioch, telling me to please call them as soon as I could. That seemed strange and a large pit developed in my stomach. I knew without being told that my father had passed away, however, I am very optimistic and I was hoping they had called to say they were moving him to comfort care and could we please come. My hopes were for naught. I reached the ICU department and they transferred my call to someone who's job it is to let the families know their loved ones have passed (I would hate that job). They told me that at 7:05 my father had opened his eyes, looked around the room, took one last breathe and then his heart failed. The only one in the room at the time was a nurse. There was no family around he passed on alone. And that still kills me to this day.

Needless to say I cried, huge sobbing cries wracked my body. Chandler hugged me and my mom hugged me, but I was so sad. It was hard, and it has been a hard year. I would have cancelled Christmas if were not for Chandler and him needing some normalcy in his life after the retched two months we had just gone through.

Throughout this year many positive things have happened. There have been many happy moments, but at the same time there is a dark cloud hanging over them because I can't share these moments with my father. My father who was so proud of me, who I didn't always appreciate but I did always love him. I miss him and I know he is watching out for his family that is still on Earth because he was a control freak like that. I know he has shared in my joys this past year and in my sorrows it just sometimes hurts that I can't just pick up the phone and call him like I used too.

So with the passing on the first year all I can say is things start taking on a feeling of being normal again, but they never go back to what it was like before. You never forget the passing of a loved one, it gets easier because the pain ebbs a little you get used to feeling that pain, but it's always there. We just learn to live with it. I hope that Christmas starts becoming easier for me, but it is still a holiday I am no longer very excited about because the beginning of December just brings in so many sad memories.

Tuesday, 8 December 2009

Pictures with Leigham

Took little man for pictures today. They turned out ok, but he would not smile and he didn't want to look in the direction of the camera. It was a process to get the photos we got. So I ordered my pictures and they should be ready the day after I leave for Saskatchewan. I am just going to have Adrian bring them to Saskatoon at Christmas and hopefully I will be able to get most of them out to people!!

We also have Canadian Babies Photography coming to show us pictures we had done last week. We will see how those photos turned out, they are more expensive but if they are really cute I may not be able to help myself and I may end up buying some more pictures of little man. Honestly I may have a problem, when Chandler was little I took him for like four photo sessions before Christmas, so it's not like this is really unusual.

Monday, 7 December 2009

Preparing for Christmas

Tis the season!! So that's what people say. I find this time of year to be insanely busy. I have Christmas shopping to do, Christmas parties to attend, Christmas baking to complete, Christmas cards to send out, Christmas decorating to hang, and then the regular normal everyday activities.

To be honest, I am not feeling the Christmas spirit as I used to. It's really quite sad, but I have the same feeling I had last year, if Christmas just passed by and slept through it I can't say that I would miss it. It's a terrible feeling to have, absolutely terrible because I used to be the girl that loved Christmas. I have a new baby to celebrate this season of giving with and the things I usually do to get into to festive mood is not working. I find this terribly sad.

I am not unaware of why Christmas has taken a not so festive turn, I know it stems back to the events of last year. Last year on December 8 my father passed away, it left a very dampened mood over Christmas. I would have voted to cancel Christmas, but for Chandler I went through with it. I know tomorrow is going to be a difficult day for me, I am working to keep my schedule absolutely full so I don't have time to dwell on what has occurred. I miss my father daily and when I look at Chandler and Leigham I miss him even more. I miss that he won't get to see his grandchildren, and that he can't celebrate with me the accomplishments I have made. It definitely puts a dark cloud over Christmas.

I need to find a way to celebrate Christmas that is different than I used to, I think that may be the only way to rebuild the Christmas spirit in myself. So in keeping with my Pay it forward challenge I started thinking of doing little things. Last Saturday Chandler had a soccer game, we arrived at the Collicut early and were ordering food. A little girl came up to the till and asked if she could have a cup for one of her teammates that forgot their water bottle. The girl work told her it would cost her ten cents ( WHAT?!?!) The girl left without her cup because she did not have the ten cents. I told the lady behind the counter to give me another bottle of water, as Chandler had forgotten his bottle of water as well. I then went and found that little girl and gave her the bottle of water. I told her to take this gesture of kindness and pass it forward to other people.

It felt good to do something nice and maybe by doing these little expressions of charity I will build up my Christmas spirit and have something to celebrate this year. My celebration will be teaching my sons to give of themselves this holiday season as it isn't about what you get but what you give of yourself that makes this season so special.

Friday, 4 December 2009

Winter oh Winter



Winter Oh Winter
How I loath thee

Your bitter cold

miserable wind










(pictures of the storm on Dec 4, 2009)


You turn the streets to

skating rinks

sidewalks to

death traps




















If it weren't for Christmas

Who knows what I would do


















(Even my dog was unimpressed with Winter's arrival)

Wednesday, 2 December 2009

Annoyed

So many times credit card companies send out your information to outside companies that offer to "protect your credit" or "offer assistance if you should get hurt/ laid off etc". I have five credit cards (yikes) and I have recieved calls from all these people, they want to give you a free thirty day trial of their product then after that they will charge you X-amount of dollars a month to continue their service that they are sure we will "love".

In order to get these people off my phone as quickly as possible I will say yes to whatever they are offering. I find when I say no, they try to use up more of my precious time explaining why i "absolutely need this service" and how it is "such an amazing deal". Quite frankly they are asking for my money, in the off chance that I will use their product, I don't use it, I never have. I have been unemployed and don't use my insurance or care to read my credit report daily. This was the call I got today to red my credit report daily, to help protect me against identity theft.

I agree that it is a really good idea, and if I really wanted to see what was going on I could just call them myself. I could call them when they are busy doing other things, from a number they wouldn't recognize at home. Why can't they send me emails, or just mail me out the information to see if I would be interested and if I am then I can call them. It's so frustrating sometimes. Like today, I get a call while I am just checking my email and facebook. It was ok at first but then she goes on and on about this. Not once asking me if I am interested until the end, when she goes, "So Jennifer I just need you to say yes that you would like to sign up." To which I replied, "Actually I am not interested." To which she says, "I hear what you are saying, but we aren't charging you right now you get thirty days and you can read all the information at home to make a decision." Now at this point my little man starts screaming. He was not happy mom was not paying attention to him and I am thinking I just have to get off the phone. So I tell her "Fine yes, but I have to go my baby is crying." To which she says,"Oh ok, i just have one more question to ask you." I told her to do it quickly, and it was the longest questions ever, I said fine yes again and hung up on her. Picked up my little man and calmed him down.

Why don't telemarketers realize that there are some things in life that are more important than their product?? I have never been a telemarketer, but it is so frustrating sometimes to have to listen to them. It's no wonder I usually just hang up on them.

Monday, 30 November 2009

My puppy

So last year I got it into my head that I wanted a dog. After much research and self debate i chose to get a Great Dane-mastiff crossed puppy that was for sale just north of Red Deer. The add for these *little* puppies had been in the paper for three weeks. I called the number and they had one little girl left so Adrian and I went up to take a look to see if I wanted this little puppy. Well they were adorable, they looked like little cows and she had some unique eyes. They asked if I wanted to hold her and I said ok and that was the end of that I was taking home the little cow to become my puppy.









So this is her, the little princess. She's sitting in the front seat of my car at this point.

But as all dogs grow, Sasha began to grow. She didn't grow really fast but she began to grow and as she grew I noticed other idiosyncrasies about her as well. She suffered from separation anxiety, she would whine and howl if I had to leave her at home by herself. As I had to work she had to be left outside, but she would whine and howl. I worked with her as much as I could and eventually she has sort of grown out of this. She still doesn't like to be away from her family, at least not by herself, and she does not appreciate having to be outside when everyone else is inside. She definitely believes she should be treated like a person and not a pet, but I watch the Dog Whisperer and I treat her like a pet, not a person.






Here she is about a month after I got her, she's still little and cute. Well she is still cute now, but she was really cute back then.







Now my dog is scared of everything new. It took Chandler fifteen minutes to coax her up to the slide and another five to convince her to go down. She then avoided Chandler for the rest of the walk. She has become a very large dog. But she is still a scaredy cat.

When Adrian was off work because of his accident he was home all day and my dog got very spoiled, and then stopped being my dog. Sasha is now Adrian's dog, she has switched her loyalties. She still listens to me and isn't troublesome at all, but she looks at Adrian with adoration in her eyes. She will sit by him before she sits by anyone else she becomes excited when it's time for him to come home, yes Sasha is Adrian's dog because Adrian spoiled her like a little princess while he was off work. A spoiling she embraced and now expects continually.





The other cute little thing about my *little* dog is that I can dress her up. Yes I have to put Adrian's clothes on her but she is comfortable wearing bunnyhugs or hoodies. Now that it's cold out I am considering sewing her a bunnyhug of her own so she can wear it while she is outside. She is not happy that the snow returned. When it melted I think she thought it was gone and would never return. She despises winter.

But that is my dog, who really isn't my dog anymore. Maybe it's time for me to get another new puppy. A little puppy that will be my lap dog. hahhaa

Sunday, 29 November 2009

my little man the first month

So for my baby shower I wanted to be able to share with everyone some of his photos from his first month of life. So I created a movie to play during the baby shower.

Having so much time free now I have discovered great programs that I can use on my computer, that previously I was unable to use because I had no time to figure out how to work them. Now that I know how to use them it is fun and it could be a new part-time job for me to make these little videos. They would be great for reunions, birthdays, yearly catch up videos for family far away. I am seriously loving this time off because I am learning new skills!!

So I am going to upload this video to share with you!

Hope you enjoy it!!!


video

Baby Shower

Just wanted to thank you to all the girls that came out to the baby shower. We had fun!!


Big thanks goes out to Tara and Stacey who did all the planning it was a lot of fun!!!


Wednesday, 25 November 2009

Man do babies ever grow quickly....

Here are pictures of little man and the changes he's gone through in the past four weeks. He's four weeks old this week:(



















Tuesday, 24 November 2009

Burping babies

So one of the things new parents do with their new babies is burp them. So the new mom feeds the baby and then places the baby on their lap in a seated position, or laying across their lap or over their shoulder and begins to pat their little backs to get that gas bubble out of their stomach. Sometimes it takes FOREVER. you feel like by the time this child burps, you will be needing to feed them again. Our parents tell us their tricks for burping but they all seem the same, just some variation on what the nurses in the hospital tell us. There has got to be an easier way to burp these little guys!!!

I am about to let you in on a secret, I have found a way. It is an amazing little trick, but it works everytime. It's simple and easy and what's strange is I have no idea why it works. The secret is this.... lift the babies arm up. You can lift them alternately, or together. Usually the lifting of the arm brings the burp up, if the baby doesn't burp, pat their back and within three or four pats the little gaffer will burp. It's a pretty amazing thing. Leigham is well burped. lol

If you have a little baby that needs burping try this. It works!!!

Thursday, 19 November 2009

Spreading Happiness

A few years ago, like a lot of years ago, the movie Pay it Forward came out. It was a little movie with a big message. I have always loved that movie, more for what it taught me then for the acting skills of the actors in the movie. The actors were fine, the story was fine but the theme of the movie really resonated with me.

For those of you who never saw the movie or read the book, here is a quick synopsis of what the movie was about from my memory. I have only seen the movie once and I read the book once but again this was years ago, so if my memory fails me with the details just bare with me. In the movie a teacher challenges his students to come up with a service project to help make the world a better place. (this is the detail I am not sure about) So Haley Joel Osment (the kid from the Sixth Sense) comes up with the idea for pay it forward. He decides to do three good deeds for random people, and all he asks that these people do is return his good deed to three other people. Thus creating a tree of good deeds that branches out indefinitely. I don't remember who he helped or how he helped them. I don't remember how the movie ended, but the whole idea of doing good deeds for people and asking them to pay it forward just seems like a great idea.

I believe that doing good deeds for other people spreads happiness and it's an easy way to help out the world. So I am going to challenge myself to help out three people this holiday season. My deadline is to have helped at least three people by Christmas, I will document what I have done and I will ask them to just pay it forward. Servus Credit Union has started a Pay it Forward campaign this past month. They would give you ten dollars for you to share with someone else, and you were not expected to do anything in return. Whether you weren't expected to do anything though I am not entirely sure, but that's what their radio advertisements claimed.

I am going to extend this challenge to everyone else out there. What can you do for other people to brighten their day, to make their life easier?

If you do anything share it with me, I would like to see how many people I can reach, if you help someone, let them know about my blog so they can post what they did to help someone else. They say a smile is contagious, so a good deed has to be as well. How far can one good deed go to making this world a much brighter place.

Wednesday, 18 November 2009

Tuesday, 17 November 2009

Extracurricular activities

So Chandlerman is in soccer. He really enjoys playing indoor soccer and he's not bad at it. He has played all positions. He does well at seeker, and he did pretty well at defense. He is a very positional player. If he is told to play right wing, he sticks to the right wing, if he's told to play defense he stays in his predetermined position.

Last year he had an excellent coach. His coach was well versed in soccer and really knew what was going on. He was able to communicate to the children the positions he needed them to play. Sometimes he would use sayings like "touch tight", some parents would voice that the children didn't understand that. But, the kids did understand and they followed his instructions. The reason, he explained what he was saying so the kids knew that when he called out instructions they would know what to do. He celebrated the children's accomplishments and congratulated the children when they did what they could even if they lost. He was a great coach all around.

This year is a different story. Chandler is on a team with coaches that have not coached before. They are parent volunteers who have been forced into this position. They are parents much like I would be because I didn't play soccer so I don't know much about the game. The coaches offer praise and encouragement, but their skill development is not there. It's unfortunate for Chandler who is becoming frustrated with his team because they don't play positions well. Sometimes I feel like the players are keystone cops all congregating around the ball but then they have no one to pass to. I have seen improvements, and I know that instead of continuing to be frustrated by this situation, I am going to do something about it. I am going to take a coaching clinic for soccer then I will coach his team next year and solve this situation.

So now I will leave you to go and watch Chandler's soccer game. Hopefully he will do well. As long as he is having fun I am ok with everything else!!! Having fun and being active is why we put our children in extracurricular activities!!!

Saturday, 14 November 2009

Personalities of Children

When you have children you wonder what will they be like when they are older, you wonder what they will desire to do with their life and you wonder if you will be able to protect them and teach them to be responsible, contributing members of society. Well those are some of the things I contemplate as I hold me babies.

As Chandler grew I noticed interesting personalities quirks that he developed. He showed from a young age that he cared about animals and bugs. Sometimes his caring got a little carried away. Once he was concerned his fish were cold in the water so he scooped the fish out with his bare hands and put them in the register to warm up. But it was the thought, he didn't understand at 2 that his fish were cold blooded and needed to be in water to survive. I saw at a very young age that he was spiritual. I am Catholic, but I have not really raised my son to be religious. But at 2 and 3 Chandler was already inquiring about Jesus and God and how people got to heaven. It came out of left field the first time he asked me. When I asked him where he heard of these things he told me he had just thought it up. I also noticed in Chandler that he was a bit of a comedian. His sense of humour was different then mine but it was there. As Chandler has grown I have found that he is a great little person and is growing into a great member of society. How much of this is nurture and how much is nature I don't know, but maybe through my next son I can answer these questions a bit more.

Leigham is just over two weeks old. He is a very content baby unless he's hungry. He likes to look around when he's awake and he will follow people. I wonder how similar he will be to his brother and how similar he will be to his father. He is already a momma's boy, he will cry and only stop when I have picked him up. Not even Dad picking him up calms him. But each day I see in him a great possibility of a wonderful person that will grow up all to fast.

I do believe that by the time babies are three months old they really begin to look like themselves and by six months you see aspects of their personalities. Like are they quick tempered, patient, inquisitive, or goofy. There just are some personality traits that people are born with and others they have to acquire as they grow older.

What have you noticed about the children around you?? What insights have they given you at one year, six months, two years old about their personalities and who they are going to become in the future.

Friday, 13 November 2009

Olympics torch relay

I am loving the Olympic torch relay. I have loved the idea behind how they chose the people to run with the torch, I love the ideals the Olympics stand for and I love that Olympics bring people together.

I never applied to carry the torch. I did not feel like I would have qualified to carry the torch. I live a fairly healthy lifestyle. I work out, I eat healthy, I don't smoke or do drugs so I could have possibly been a contender but I did not apply. I am not doing much to help with the environment. I mean to, I recycle my paper and cardboard and my bottles, but I have not done anything over and above.

I would like to send out a thank you and big CONGRATULATIONS to all those that are doing things to be healthier and make our world healthier!!! Since I have a year to be at home with my little man, I plan to do more to help create a more beautiful world for my family to live in!!

Thursday, 12 November 2009

What's important

I have gone through life wanting things, desiring more than I had, and wanting to keep up with those around me. I have sometimes forgotten to appreciate the things I have and done. I get caught up in life, the media promoting images that tell you will make you happy and without those things you will not be happy. I am guilty of keeping up with Joneses, guilty of trying to fill a hollow in my life with material things. I am not always this way but I have found that there are times in my life where those material things matter more than the important things.

I know what's important in life. I value those close to me and foster those relationships that deserve to be fostered, loved and grown. I love my family, my friends. I care for people, I want to help make the world a better place, I want to show respect for everything and everyone. I try to live by my values everyday, showing respect and love for everyone. I get better everyday and have a better understanding everyday of the really important things in life. I know that what's important to me may not be important to everyone, but so long as it is important to me, those things must influence my goals and desires in life.

When I put aside those desire for those material objects it becomes apparent what the sweetest things in life are. The sweetest things in my life are my babies cries, my eldest sons hugs, my friends well wishes, my Adrian's kisses and help from my family. Things that are given freely without strings and only because it is felt that they are deserved of the recipient.

It is those things that I reciprocate and offer to my loved ones. I know that people need these things to survive in life. If needing a ear to talk to is something you need, call me. If you need to vent in an email, email me. If you need a shoulder to cry on, my shoulders are wide for resting heads on. I may not be a millionaire, I may not have connections in high places, but I will be there for you if you need it. That is my promise to my friends, family and those that need me. I can only offer myself and that is important to me. As long as I can give of myself, then I should and will.

So in helping to make this world a better place I shall offer what I can of myself. :D

Tuesday, 10 November 2009

Parenting tips applied to the world

So when I first decided to start writing this blog I had an idea in my head of what I wanted the blog to entail. It stemmed from my belief in the teaching field and my beliefs in parenting. These beliefs include rewarding children for positive behaviour and not spending much time on negative behaviour, basically the scale should be more time spent rewarding good behaviour and less time penalizing bad behaviour. Children should not be punished but taught how to be disciples of positive behaviour. We can't expect children to know how to behave unless we teach them how to behave properly in various situations. It is the foundation to having a well run classroom, and having well behaved children. I think that if we took this philosophy and applied it to the world at large the world could be changed into a better place. I wanted a place to blog about those positive stories, those stories that show the world to be a great place, and that's what I am going to be working on, hopefully, most of the time.

After all they say love makes the world go round!

So if we take the philosophy that and apply it to the world, could there be a change. If the media started presenting more positive stories would people change. Children are said to misbehave more if their behaviour elicits a reaction, so if bad behaviour gets them more attention they act out, but if they are reinforced for their positive behaviour they behave in a more appropriate manner. Can this strategy be carried out to the world in general?? If criminals were not given all the media hype would they continue to commit crimes?? I am not delusional in thinking this would cure all crimes but it could help decrease them. If reports were more sensationalized for those heroes that saved lives in burning buildings, or help a child reach a dream wouldn't more people try to emulate those behaviours because those were the behaviours gaining recognition?? It's a thought and that's what I am going to focus on. Changing the world a little at a time, especially my little world. I want those feel good stories to reach people, those stories of everyday people doing extraordinary things for others.

My thoughts are why shouldn't the people doing good get as much recognition, or more so than, the people doing evil. So I am going to applying parenting skills to the world and hope that I can make a small change in my world that may ripple out and effect the greater world!!!

Sunday, 8 November 2009

Motherhood V. 2.0

Motherhood is always a new experience with each child. Not only do you have to balance your life in accordance to the child that first arrived but you have to make allowances for the new babe in your life. Being a first time mom is different from being a second or third time mom, but in ways that are very different then I ever expected.

With my first child, all eleven years ago, I was experiencing all the new joys of motherhood for the first time. First feedings, diapers, smiles, and noises babies make were all new wondrous moments for me to experience. Also developing a routine with this miraculous little babe that was in my care was sort of challenging. You wonder if you will ever sleep again, if you will ever be able to be able have a relaxing bath again, if you will ever get your hair back under control, but even if you don't it's all worth it because that little babe in your arms is the most amazing thing you have ever created.

I do not necessarily believe that I am the guru of motherhood, but I have been through this before and I know what to expect. Except I didn't. I don't know if its because I forgot many things, or if maybe my first little guy was an exceptionally well behaved baby that ruined babies for me.

My hormones are in piles around my feet. The strangest things will make me cry. My worry scale is off the charts. Seriously, I worry a lot, especially about those that I love, but I now my imagination runs rampant and then my hormones get involved and well the tears flow and I can't even always explain it. I understand that it's partially postpartum, which I can understand, and lack of sleep will also impair resiliency, but sometimes I think it's getting ridiculous.

My newest addition is an absolute joy, I am totally in love with him and so happy to have him in my arms all day long. I am very content to just snuggle and cuddle in bed with him all day long, and pajama days are the best way to spend days with that little snuggle bug. He is a pretty content baby. Likes to spend his time eating and sleeping. Very typical for a new born. But I am finding that things are different this time. I have found that his eating routine is drastically different from his brothers. He likes to eat every two hours maybe three hours at tops in between. His brother ate every three hours except at night when he slept for six hours right from the time I brought him home. That's at least the way I remember it. I do know that he started sleeping eight hours 7 weeks after he was born so I don't think I was that delusional in my memories but who knows. My first was an excellent eater, rarely spit up, burped well, and had normal bowel movements. This new bundle likes to have bowel movements, many of them, more than normal I would think, and he has taken to spitting up. It racks my nerves, but as I have called Health Link, I am told this can be normal and that I should try burping him before he eats and in between his feedings so he doesn't spit up what he eats. It's these little things that cause me worries, that make me wonder if maybe things are not perfect, but I am sure it's just my imagination trying to work overtime. He's a perfect little man and I am so glad he's mine, I just have to get my hormones under control.

So if anyone has any helpful hints to deal with little things that make you nervous being a new mom speak up, I am looking for all the advice I can get!!!

Friday, 6 November 2009

Weird News Stories

OK so I am not a big news watcher.... not even a little bit, but my mom, well she watches the news and always feels the need to share weird stories with me. Most of the time these stories are humourous, but sometimes they are a little disturbing. So I feel the need to share this outrageous story with you guys... I do not know what some people are thinking sometimes they just seem absolutely crazy.

So apparently some guy was sentenced in the states to three years in prison. Three years in prison for having... wait for it... sex with a HORSE!!! Not just once but he was caught doing it twice. The lady who owned the horse thought he was doing it, caught him, he was charged, and she figured he was still doing it so she set up a video recorder and caught him on video doing it AGAIN!!!! What the heck is wrong with people!?!?!?!?!

Yes so a word to the wise you can go to jail for beastiality..... especially if the beast you are fornicating with is not your own. Seriously, it is just disgusting.... what some people get off on.

Friday, 23 October 2009

Doctor's Appointment Update

Went to the Doctor yesterday for a prenatal check up. Nothing out of the ordinary. not really. My doctor and I discussed how I was feeling, had another internal exam (yucky), my blood pressure was taken, listened to the baby's heartbeat (137) and discussed an issue that came up with work and my due date.

My doctor, who is my favourite person right now, is at a conference on my due date. This made me a little agitated, but well I wasn't too worried about it really. I would like my doctor to deliver my baby but if he can't he can't, c'est la vie. But he told me that they usually like to make a person go ten days overdue (this is unacceptable for me lol I don't want to wait that long) but, he said he thinks if I made it to my due date I could be induced on the following Monday. That would be November 2, 4 days after my due date. I got right on board with that!

As for my work issue, I have been subpenaoed to court and court is on the 2, 3, and 4th of November. Well as that is 4 to 6 days after my due date I am not going to be able to go. So I have asked my doctor to write me a note saying I can't be there for medical reasons. He was very agreeable to this suggestion.

My blood pressure has done something really weird now. At my last appointment my blood pressure was up, I still had edema but I was feeling fine. My blood pressure was high again this last appointment so my doctor sent me to Unit 25, the maternity unit, to do a non stress stress test. What I find really weird is that my blood pressure has been perfect up until last week. While I was working and feeling stressed my blood pressure was perfect every time, now that I am off work my blood pressure has risen.

The non stress stress test is a test used to see if the baby is distressed because of my blood pressure. During the test the nurses hook me up to the TOCO monitor and measured the baby's heart rate and movements. I had to press a button everytime the baby moved. It was easy. After the test the nurses called my doctor to give him the results. During this conversation my doctor said he wished to set up an induction date for me for Friday (that's the next day). Apparently I had protein in my urine as well. So this is looking like preeclampsia, which can be dangerous. After much discussion between my doctor and the nurses, it was decided that I would have some blood work done and do a 24 hour urine collection (yes it is as gross as it sounds). So I have to take my collection into the lab and go visit my doctor on Saturday at the clinic. Also I am scheduled to be induced on Monday.

I am a little terrified by this, it seems like the pain is going to start hard and fast and no work up like with Chandler. But on the bright side I may be having this little bundle sooner rather than later. I will keep you posted!!!

Wednesday, 21 October 2009

Raspberry Tea Anyone

So I found some raspberry tea and brought it home to test the raspberry tea inducing suggestion.  So far nothing.  I may have had a contraction or two, but I don't really attribute that to the raspberry tea just to the fact that my due date is 8 DAYS AWAY!!!

See this is my problem, I am impatient.  Completely impatient for waiting for things to happen.  If I want to induce my labour I want to do what they ask and then labour to begin within the hour.  I am aware that it does not work that way, but I really do want it to work that way.  So I have to do some extra research, because I have come to the realization that if some of this theories take some time to get started my labour could become very intense and not fun at all.  For anyone who has been induced with the drugs at the hospital can tell you that when hard labour comes on that quickly it is painful.  Pain and I do not get along so I am going to be forced to do some extra research so that the natural induction theories do not knock me out from pain.

For now I have stuck to the food theories, they seem safest but also I love food so even if labour does not start then I get to enjoy some good food.  

Tonight we have to move furniture, then we have to set up the living room and dining room.  Tonight or this afternoon for that matter might not be the best time to go into labour, but maybe that will make it happen.  Tomorrow evening is also not a good evening for me to go into labour, I have too many shows to watch and well I don't want to be watching them in the hospital.  However with such a busy schedule in front of us, maybe this baby will come out because it will be an inconvenience for us.  

Friday though I am going to try some of the other theories I may even try Castor Oil Again :P

Friday, 16 October 2009

Inducing Labour Attempt Two

So in keeping with the documenting of labour induction I attempted to get this baby out again today.

Yesterday's stretching of the membranes did not work. It was uncomfortable and a little painful but no contractions followed. So I have now gone to try the next item on my list. My list, by the way, is not written in any particular order, it's basically what is easiest that day.

Today I tried spicy food. Today is a day I wish I were in California hanging out with Alex and her family because then I would have gotten some real spicy food. Alas, I am in Alberta where we do not get a lot of spicy food. I guess that might not be an accurate statement but there are not a lot of options for spicy food that i enjoy.

My friend Tara came and picked me up and we went to the mall. Tara had to do some shopping and I had to do some walking around and looking for spicy Mexican food. Unfortunately, the only Mexican option was Taco Time. But some type of spicy food is better then nothing. I ordered Mexi Fries and a Beef Burrito. I sampled all the hot sauces and added them to my meal. The mild sauce was more like ketchup then a mild hot sauce. The original was a hot sauce but not really a hot sauce and the diablo hot sauce, though hotter than the other two was not that spicy. However, Taco Time was what I had to work with and I did my best to eat some spicy food. The food was spicy, but so far nothing has happened.

Now I am waiting and I have plans to go out tonight with my brother. We are going to have a great time and as much as I want this baby to come it can wait until after I am done with my plans. There you are Shazzer, I have plans that would make it an inopportune moment for this baby to come. If this works, well then I shall bow down to you.

Thursday, 15 October 2009

Starting the process to get this labour going

So today was officially my last day of work before I go on Maternity leave. I am very excited to be on Maternity leave. Work was getting stressful and I am so tired from not sleeping that I needed to leave. I had contemplated leaving six weeks earlier but I toughed it out and have made it to the end of my pregnancy.

With my due date being 14 days away, I am now trying to induce labour early. I have been doing research (read looking on line) for ways to induce my labour. There are a few that everyone knows about and some that I had never heard of before. So from now on until this little child enters the world I shall be trying to induce labour.

There were many suggestions online to induce labour. These suggestions included acupressure, nipple stimulation, sex, spicy food, raspberry tea, pineapple, and Castor oil. With my first pregnancy I tried Castor oil, four by fouring, and sex. None of these options worked then, the only thing that worked was contractions starting and the doctor breaking my water in the hospital. But I am willing to try these and the other options again, anything to get this pregnancy over with. I am tired, sick and tired of being pregnant.

So today I had a doctor's appointment and had an internal exam. As I am now 38 weeks along my doctor suggested doing an internal exam to stretch the membranes to see if we could get this labour moving along. It is seriously an uncomfortable experience, but I am willing to try anything. So the Doctor told me my cervix has not started to open ( What the hell are these contractions doing then??), but that the stretching could help get this process started. I have been warned that there could be some show but that it might not start labour.



So if anyone has any suggestions on how to start this labour, I welcome them. I am willing to try and will post pictures of some of the suggestions where the pictures are appropriate.

Tuesday, 13 October 2009

Joining the trend

So over the past year many of my friends have started blogs. Mostly just to speak of their experiences in their life. Some speak of Motherhood, wedding planning or just other things that happen to them. I have had blogs in the past, on my myspace page and on my facebook page, so this will be my first attempt at a blog on a blog site.

I enjoy checking my friend's blogs but with work and just wanting to watch television I admit I have not been the best reader of their blogs. That shall all change now, as I am about to go on Maternity leave for a year. I know I will be busy with raising a newborn and keeping my eldest in check, but I feel I will have some spare time on my hands. Time to put into a Hobby I love. I love to write and I love to share my thoughts on different events. Maybe have some discussions start on new topics or bring up new views on old ideas.

If all goes as plan, starting next week, the Week starting October 19 my blog will be up and running. I would like to update daily, and that is my goal, whether it's with some insightful words of wisdom, a feel good news story, or creative writing something will appear daily. That is the plan.

I hope you enjoy reading and if you would like me to share my thoughts on any topic just let me know and I will write up a blog on that topic.