Thursday, 31 July 2014

Camping at Gull Lake

I haven't gone camping in years, not since high school.  I kind of lost my appeal for camping shortly after then, especially after being spoiled because some of my friends had family with cabins at the lakes so camping was not my idea of fun, unless it was in a powered cabin. Otherwise, forget IT!! Not doing it, not interested.  But my husband likes to camp, so we compromised and have camped a little since we've been together.

Those first few camping trips were in tents, and I hate tents!! I can't get comfortable, I'm always too hot under the sleeping bag, too cold out of the sleeping bag and my trick to just stick one leg out of the covers doesn't work either because that leg just freezes while the rest of me sweats.  So we camped on the way down to California for our honeymoon for a couple days but that was the last time I have camped with him.

Then his parents got a camper now I can camp in a camper. It has 'beds' and offers four walls and their camper even had a fridge and toilet.  It's a type of roughing it I can handle.  So when my friend Sara asked me to go camping with her for week at Gull Lake, I figured I could handle it with the two boys in the camper. So we planned to camp and away we went!!

Now I am not as talented as Sara so I let my hubby set up our campsite, I just stood around and looked pretty watching the kids, Sara set up her whole campsite on her own, I was impressed.  We were staying out in Gull Lake for 4 days, the longest my child has gone without tv, and I wasn't sure if I wouldn't want to give him to a zoo after that but I was willing to give it a try.

We got out to Gull Lake on Monday morning, sites were set up by noon and then we took the kids to the lake. It was a fifteen minute walk to the lake but the kids did really well with it and didn't really complain at all.  After spending almost 4 hours at the lake we went back to the campsite to have supper.
The kids painted rocks they collected on the way back to the campsite and Sara and I fixed supper.  After supper it was showers and then we put the two older kids to bed.  The babies weren't as easy to convince to sleep but they did sleep and Sara and played some Skipbo.

Tuesday and Wednesday were very similar, we went to the beach, and the park, let the two older kids play themselves out and Sara and I watched and took care of the babies.  I really enjoyed our camping trip, it was a lot of fun!  Getting a few hours each evening without any of the kids talking at us and stuff was fabulous and it was hot the whole week we were there.

For me this is a type of camping I can handle!! And since Hubby bought us a trailer I'm super excited to do more camping.  Only issue is I am dependent on hubby to set up my camper because this one is huge and I wouldn't even consider trying to haul it!!  I'll write another blog about the trailer tomorrow.

Wednesday, 30 July 2014

Water challenge update #2

2 weeks of drinking water
Well as you have come to realize I am not a fan of drinking water, it was my least favourite thing to do, I'd much rather a pepsi or orange juice, but those have "empty" calories and water is good for me. So about four weeks ago I began my water drinking challenge, click the link to read about that, and two weeks ago I posted an update with a picture, and I actually admitted to liking water.  and here is another update for you.

I'm now craving water! CRAVING it!!!  If I don't get at least three litres in a day, I wake up the next morning with a terrible headache, so in rode to avoid that I drink water, every day, all day long!! I like water, especially iced water!! But I'm even drinking water that is room temperature now! What is wrong with me????

Nothing actually, absolutely nothing is wrong with me, I am just giving my body something that it
3 weeks drinking water
needs and it is giving me what I need. Regular bowel routines for one, soft skin, smooth skin as well, any other problems I was having health wise (except this crazy plugged ear) have been cleared up, the only thing I'm doing differently is the water intake.  Crazy right?  Well maybe not but it seems crazy that a little Hydrogen and Oxygen mixing together to form this liquid can be so powerful and so potent that it can be life altering.

For me it is life altering because I enjoy drinking water now, I still enjoy my pepsi, my orange juice a coffee now and then, but I only have those things after I have had a water bottle full of water.  They are rewards so the more I want to drink in a day, the more water I have to consume.  So if I want a pepsi, a coffee, an orange juice and slush, I have to drink 4 litres of water and I really don't mind!!

So that's it, my little challenge to make drinking water a habit has occurred and I have been successful.  Next challenge may involve eating vegetables, I don't feel like I eat enough so once I figure that out I'll let you all know!!

Tuesday, 29 July 2014

5 Love Languages

A good friend of mine recommended that people read Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages.  It was a book that had helped her through a tough time in her marriage and she felt that it was an amazing read!! I appreciated her candour and even though I am not having difficulty in my marriage at this point in time, there have been times when things weren't always great.

I had decided that I should read this book based on her suggestion, because one of my beliefs is that marriage is work, it's not fairy tale stuff. You need to work at love to make sure you don't fall out of it. I would like to see the trend in divorces changed, I want my boys to know that marriage is something you have to take seriously and to work on every day.

So last week I read this book, I also took out his other two books, one for children and one for teenagers.  There are times when I struggle with speaking the other love languages and I am trying to ensure that my boys always know that I love them unconditionally.  So I've been reading and I think that if you are in a long term relationship or in a new relationship even, this book is a great read, it can only help you.

According to Chapman there are five love languages, five ways to "speak" to someone to show you love them and everyone has one that is stronger than the rest.  The five love languages were quality time, gifts of service, physical touch, words of affirmation and gifts. I actually have two that I respond with most which are words of affirmation and quality time.  Quality Time is my first love language followed very closely by words of affirmation.  My husband sometimes gives me gifts, which I do appreciate but I'd much prefer his time. As I read this book I tried to figure out what my husband's love language was, I think he responds most to gifts of service and words of affirmation.  Surprisingly, I don't think his first language is Physical touch.

So for the next 6 weeks, because I want to discover my husbands primary love language I am going to work very hard to do Acts of Service for my husband. Things like ensuring that at the house is clean when he comes home, offering to do his laundry when he is home, to see how he responds, then I am going to ask him to spend quality time with me, playing games (Monopoly, crib etc) or going for walks and see how our relationship does!  I may be wrong and his primary love language may not be acts of service so I will then have to try different ones, I also may find the quiz and ask him to take it so that I can really work on communicating to my husband how much I do love and appreciate him, so that he feels loved!!

I'll post later after I have finished the children and teenage books to see if I can figure out how my boys want to be shown love the most!!

Monday, 28 July 2014

Swimming Lessons

Since Lil Man turned four we have been putting him in the unparented swimming lessons, that would be the Sea Otter Level.  He did the level in the fall with his brother, but wouldn't do the front glide so he had to repeat.  He did another round in the spring and did not pass again, so we signed him up for the summer and he actually did worse than he had before.  I was fed up, because I know he can do it, but he was always jumping and playing while the instructor was working with other kids so I had a sneaky suspicion he was playing the instructor and claiming he was "afraid" and wouldn't do what they were asking.  I decided that after spending all that money on group lessons I may as well do a private lesson to see if that would help him.

So last week Lil Man had his first private lesson at the Dawe Center.  He did phenomenally!!! He was able to play and goof around but because he was the only kid in the lesson he got 30 minutes of 1:1 instruction. I spoke to the instructor about his weaknesses and professed fears and she listened and adjusted her lessons to help him feel more confident! After the first lesson he had done his front glide and front float and put his whole head in the water, he just wasn't comfortable doing his back float he had told her.  I knew this was bunk because he'd been doing his back float all the time, Lil Man and I talked, and I bribed him with ice cream so the next day he did his back float no problem, using only a pool noodle and he got ice cream.

Now Lil Man has passed his Sea Otter level and in two weeks will do his first round of Salamander.  We will put him in twice but after that I think I will do private lessons again!! Plus soon Lil Man and I will be swimming just have to find someone to come with us so they can hold Teddybear in the pool!!

Wednesday, 23 July 2014


When Ebay first came onto the scene, like years and years ago, I had gone on and ordered a thing or two, but really I didn't get it and I had no interest in continuing with it, then the other day happened....

I was perusing Ebay for some Pandora charms for my bracelet, because I recalled a friend of mine telling me how she had scored a Pandora charm for $6.  I thought that was a steal of a deal and hey maybe I could find a deal like that as well.  And deals I found, like hundreds of them, and so I did what people do on Ebay, I bid on an auction or two.  Or five or six!!  I bid on the auctions as a hey maybe I'll get them, but I'm not going to bid too high because I'm just testing the waters here..... but I still won two auctions, it was incredible actually. I was super excited, because it felt like I had won. Not just purchased something, but actually won something. I think that's part of the high of Ebay, you feel like you are winning, and they tell you you won the auction.

Then after looking for Pandora charms, I thought hey, I'd like a new Kate Spade Purse, let's see what's out there.  I found two that I really liked, a purple one and a blue one.  I have now won the Purple Kate Spade Bag and it should be here soon, and I have let the blue one go. I don't need to be greedy, besides the blue one has gotten a little pricey for me!!

So now I've started shopping on Ebay, and I've started shopping online.  I like WhitePlum and Agnes and Dora as well as Zulily.  I may be able to go on shopping sprees now without ever having to leave my house.... but really the most fun thing about shopping sprees is hanging out with a girlfriend and trying on different outfits!!

I'm going to take a break from the online shopping for a bit.... need to replenish and purge my own closet before I can buy more.  Ebay just seems like more fun then kijiji though!!

Tuesday, 22 July 2014

Modern Jelly Donut

Ever since I watched the episode of "You've Gotta Eat Here" that highlighted Modern Jelly Donut in Calgary I've had a huge craving for donuts (and as much as I love Tim Horton's Donuts they just don't satisfy).  So part of our Saturday trip to Calgary include a stop at Modern Jelly Donut.

Getting around Calgary is always a fun time, but apparently my navigation wanted us to drive one block and turn, drive another block and turn. My hubby was getting frustrated, especially since we were in his big truck, not always the most fun vehicle to navigate around a busy city centre.  But we arrived at 5:30 (they close at 6).

I ran in, thinking that because of the time they would be mostly sold out and I'd be lucky to find a couple varieties of donuts to try, let alone the flavours that I really wanted.  But, Lady Luck was on my side and I found not only that they had a good selection left but the top two I had wanted to try were still available!! Win for me!!

I walked out of Jelly Donut with a box of six donuts. The flavours I chose were S'more, Peanut Butter Cup, Callebaut Chocolate, Maple Bacon, and two others (I've eaten them so I don't remember the names lol)  The donuts were fresh and just as amazing as I expected them to be!!! I definitely recommend stopping in to see them if you like donuts and are in Calgary!!

Now I will definitely be going back and I think I'll make it a date day with Chandler when he gets back to Red Deer! He watched the episode with me and really wants to go, he did not want me to go without him. But I did (sorry not sorry), however, I'll save the Perogy Boyz truck for my date with Chandler and for dessert we will head to Modern Jelly Donut!!

Monday, 21 July 2014

Sparks Center Calgar

It was a rainy, overcast Saturday so the original plans of golfing were kiboshed and new plans had to be made.  Hubby thought we might like to go to the Science Center in Calgary, I was game so we got ready, loaded ourselves into the truck and headed on down to Calgary.

Lil Man was very excited o be at the science centre. I'm not actually sure he really saw anything he was all over the place, but there were tons of smiles and even more questions then usual.  My four year old loves to ask questions, he asks so many questions on a daily basis, that I wish I knew someone who did brain scans to see how his brain fires.  His train of thought is seriously all over the place.

We walked through the whole centre top and bottom, it was quite humid and warm in there which made it a little uncomfortable, but Lil Man loved the exhibits, especially any that had to do with water.

He also enjoyed the magnets, and the electric stuff.  At one point he said to another little child, "my daddy is really good at this stuff." His dad was very proud.

Teddybear enjoyed the lights and colour things, I went into the space that shows the northern lights and Teddybear was just looking all around.

After a snack of an ICEE (my favourite slushy drink) we went down to the creative museum (its an area of children 8 and under).  Lil Man was all over there too and didn't want to leave. Even Teddybear was able to enjoy a couple places and enjoyed looking at himself in the mirrors!!

We finally left the Sparks Centre at 3:30 and headed to Olive Garden for supper.  I was quite proud of Lil Man's behaviour at supper, he did very well, he wasn't jumping all over the place, he was still asking questions but I secretly hope he never stops!!

All in all it was a good day, wish Chandler would have been with us, but we will go again and I'm sure Chandler will come with us then!!

Wednesday, 16 July 2014

Celebrating my imperfections part 2

One of the things that Dr. Brene Brown has you focus on in her book is "how do you DIG Deep?"  Now her definition of DIG deep isn't the traditional definition, it's not about how hard you work, or how far you push yourself to accomplish a task at hand, digging for more energy just to finish a task.  It's looking at things in three stages
Get Determined
Get Inspired
Get Going
K wrote: How do you traditionally "dig deep"? Do you just keep pushing until your near the burn-out point?
Can you think of a time in your life when you used a WHOLEHEARTED approach to dig deep?
My response to the question was this: I have myself done the Dig Deep where I just keep pushing and pushing to complete things, but there has always come a point where i have to take what's not done and blow it away. Ususally something gets left undone and I used to feel guilty about it, but now I don't. as to the wholehearted approach to dig deep, I try to focus on what's important and because my boys are small right now (I don't know that they ever get too big for this next half of the statement) I always carve out time in the day that is dedicated especially for them, each of them gets some time with me one on one and as long as that happens it's a good day. I try to be very intentional in what I am doing, but sometimes things don't get done, and sometimes you have to put those things in a bubble and blow them away and not worry about them because you can drive yourself crazy.

What's important in your life? How will you DIG deep to get it?

Tuesday, 15 July 2014

Happy Two Months!!

It's been two months since our Teddybear joined the family!! It's been a busy two months and there have been some interesting adjustments that we have made.  Your big brother, who used to be the baby,  has taken on his role as Big Brother with love and grace. It's taking him some getting used to that Mommy can't jump every time he calls, but he loves you and is trying to understand. He has even verbalized that now that you are here I can no longer call him Baby.  My Baby is now Teddybear,  Lil man is now my little boy.

As for you my sweet little Teddybear, you are a sweet, bright eyed, happy little baby.  You've started smiling (not for the camera) and we've even gotten a laugh out of you. The air is doing a number on your sinuses as you seem to have allergies, but you tolerating the nasal aspiration and you continue to look around in wonder at the world around you!  You've started holding your head up more and more and even now are enjoying some time in your Bumbo chair!!

We've been on a trip and you did extremely well.  You even tolerated meeting countless new people and charmed them all.  You've been swimming and kicked and splashed the whole time.  You went to Gull Lake and tolerated the warmth and sun well!! You have even gone on a date with Mommy to the theatre and you did fantastic!!

You still have some dislikes, like being put down, loud noises, nasal aspirator and extended tummy time.

You let us know when you are tired and to calm you down you like to have the blanket put over your head with the soother in your mouth!!

We love you Teddybear and look forward to many years of memories in our little family!!


Monday, 14 July 2014

Celebrating my imperfections post 1

I am currently reading "Gifts of Imperfection" by Dr. Brene Brown in a book group on Facebook. It's actually my first book club that I am in and I really like this.  I love reading and I love discussing books that I have read with others who have read them as well.  I've spoken of them before, but I'll speak of them again, Good-bye My Muffin Top has started this book discussion and I am thrilled that I decided to jump in and read the book.  I'm almost finished the book and I sort of wanted to share with you what I have learned from this book.  My Ahha moments, things that I realize I need to continue to work on and things that I have already put in place.

So I am going to share with you some quotes/ questions the girls posted on Facebook and my comments to these questions.  At least this is my idea about  these posts, there will probably be five or more, they may or may not be all next week (I'll actually be camping next week so I have to get all my blogs done now, no internet!!!) But I do have some other things to talk about too, so I might intersperse these with other posts.  Anyways, here's the first question we were discussing in the book group that I think everyone should consider.

M wrote: When we're looking for compassion, we need someone who is deeply rooted, able to bend, and, most of all, we need someone who embraces us for our strengths and struggles. We need to honor our struggle by sharing it with someone who has earned the right to hear it. When we're looking for compassion, it's about connecting with the right person at the right time about the right issue. (p.11) Q. Who do you reach out to for genuine compassion? Who reaches out to you for genuine compassion?

So I started thinking about this, I'm not really one who doesn't share my problems. I actually don't really like wading through my troubles alone, it's something I have come to understand, and from a young age, that it sucks to go at things alone, so I developed great friendships and relationships that I trusted and would be someone I could go to depending on the situation.  

I am sure that my sister is generally who I turn to the most often, she's younger than me but we've been really close since we were young, yes there were years where we didn't necessarily share everything, but since she was 18 we've been very close, she's one of my best friends and I know I can trust her to listen without judgement to any issue I bring forward!

I also have cultivated some AMAZING friendships over the years!! Friends that I have had since grade one, middle school, high school, university and work.  I sometimes think I collect friends, but I cherish them all!!  So I have some great friends, I don't go to any one friend for everything, but I know which friends I can go to for different things that come up in my life.  

One of the things that comes up a lot as you read this book is the idea of shame.  Dr Brene Brown was a shame researcher, and how shame effects us in our lives and how we deal with shame.  I've identified that many of my shame episodes come from when my children do something that makes me look like an inadequate parent.  For years I have revelled in the comments and compliments I have gotten in the upbringing of my children, and I believe wholeheartedly that my children are great kids, they have great heads on their shoulders and are turning into amazing human beings that will contribute greatly to this world, but sometimes they make mistakes or bad decisions and because I take such pride in my parenting, I have great shame when it looks like I have failed my children some how.  Because I don't think it's necessarily my children who are at fault for making bad decisions, ok they did make the decision, but what could I have done that would have negated this event from happening is what I think and that's where I feel shame.

Why did I go on this tangent, well because currently many of my need for compassionate friends stems from my need to discuss my parenting short falls, so I turn to my friends that have kids around the same age as mine.  I don't think I'm the only one going through these things but it's hard to talk to people that aren't parenting the same age children as I am because the problems will either terrify them or they will immediately go to fix it mode, not my fault mode, and they won't just spend some time listening and validating my feelings in the moment.

I've had experiences in my life where I've had to go to others, because I found myself in difficult situations that I didn't know how to deal with.  Finances, parenting, jobs, depression, all these things I have waded through but I've done it with a great support system, and I am so thankful for the wonderful friends in my life because without them to share my shame I'd be devolving into a mess.

That's the trick to shame, if you keep it to yourself, it festers, becomes a larger problem then it needs to be, a monster that can't be tamed because you feed it your shame and it explodes.  But when you own your shame, when you share your shame with those around you that are honestly compassionate to you, you take away the power the shame has and it becomes something manageable and you more often then not realize that you are not alone, that you and those around you are going through similar situations and that by talking together you can work things out.

One of the things I have drawn a conclusion to that can help my kids, and I know it's helped my oldest, is that be open to discussing things with your kids. Talk about those trigger issues, bullying, drugs, alcohol etc and they won't withdraw into shame if they come across these problems. It's like that commercial where the bullied child finally talks to his parents/ an adult about the bully and the bully loses his power over the victim. It's so powerful, what sharing shame can do for a person, when you feel alone and isolated it's easy to be targeted, but when you start to share you find out that you really are not alone.

ok this is way longer than I thought it would be so I will end here because I think there are lot's of things to chew on in this blog.  You can learn more about Dr. Brene Brown on her website this connects to her blog.

Friday, 11 July 2014

You direct the Blog this week

Here's my new idea, and I think it's an interesting idea, I would like to have my blog be a bit more interactive so I would like to open myself up to answer questions from my readers. YOU! What would you like me to write about? What would you like to know about, about me, my thoughts on a subject, whatever... you get to direct the blog.

So this is how it will work.  Once you finish reading this blog leave a comment at the bottom of the blog.  I'm not sure if you have to have a google account or not, but if you do send me a message by twitter or Facebook to let me know and I'll figure something else out.  The reason I want the comments is so that other readers can see that I am not just blogging but actually following through so the next time I do this maybe they will want to participate as well.  Then once you have commented I ask that you please share this blog, on Facebook or Twitter.  That's all, pretty simple!!

Here's the other little detail, my blog is generally written at least a week in advance, so this blog will come about a week after, July 18th-22nd.

Let the questions begin!!

Thursday, 10 July 2014

Spring Cleaning or a Summer Purge

When I first found my house, the house I am currently living in, I loved the kitchen.  It was so big and had so much space, so much more space than my little town house kitchen and I just loved it! Then we moved in, and it was just the three of us, it was a little crowded, but manageable and things were ok.  Then we had the baby and need room for Lil Man's things, high chairs, bottles, cups, bowls, plates etc.. it was getting a little cluttered.  Then we started hosting family get togethers and so many people were always in the kitchen ( I don't have an open concept house), it was ridiculous how crowded it was and I started to resent my kitchen.

I couldn't get anything done in it and it was just a big area of wasted space as far as I could tell.  I didn't have a functioning pantry, my cupboards didn't go all the way to the roof but they didn't leave enough space at the top to at least store some of the larger counter top appliances like crock pots and such.  The cupboards were white, I painted them a muted pink, even got the hubby's blessing on that one haha, they now have brushed silver knobs which do modernize them more.  We took out the breakfast table and now just have an open area for a pantry and book shelf.  But it was still driving me crazy.  The kitchen had become a dumping ground for stuff. Mail, supplies, clothes, whatever, it was just a place things came to die but no one ever did anything about really cleaning it.
Here is what my kitchen looked like this afternoon.

I grew up in a house where my mom cleaned the kitchen every night after supper, and there is seriously something about a clean kitchen before going to bed that is very relaxing.  I secretly love having a clean kitchen at the end of the night. I would rather not wake up the next morning and see supper dishes on the counters and sinks, it's a pet peeve of mine, yet my family never seemed to mine. Honestly though, part of it was me being passive aggressive, if I cooked I didn't want to clean, I felt someone else should, but no one would and then it would sit until the next day. GROSS!!  Well now it's just me home most of the time, so any mess is a mess that I am in charge of, so when my oldest son gets home I'll have to work with him on this routine and when my hubby comes home we will have to work on this, just so that it gets done and stays clean because in all actuality, my kitchen is pretty damn big!!

I did a big clean in the kitchen today which has led me to this discovery.  I organized shelves, I set up a mail spot, I'd still like to put a command centre into my kitchen but that will have to wait a bit.  But the kitchen is clean and it looks fantastic!! Here are the after pictures!!

What did I tell you, it's pretty good, I can handle this kitchen, at least until I can either gut it and renovate it or move!!

Wednesday, 9 July 2014

Day Trip to Gull Lake

Growing up in Northern Saskatchewan a girl can become pretty spoiled when it comes to lakes.  There are so many good clean lakes within an easy 45 minute drive that you just think that everyone must have this luxury.  And it is a luxury, let me tell you, because not everywhere has this benefit and if there is one thing I miss more than anything, it's living in such close proximity to so many great lakes.   (Saskatchewan you have amazing lakes)

Now that I live in Central Alberta, I've had to make some adjustments to my lake habits.  I was a girl who would go to the lake any chance I got and I would be in the lake swimming for hours and hours, now not so much.  Mostly because I don't find the lakes here that appealing to me.  Again I blame Saskatchewan for spoiling me, but the closest lakes to my current living space aren't as good as back home, they are good, just not as good.  I think Sylvan Lake is pretty, it's a cute lake town but it's always so busy and I don't know the area well enough to know where the more seclude public areas might be that might not be as busy so that's a turn off for me. Plus Sylvan is over run with university aged people that are big into partying and this momma is so far removed from that scene now!!
The next closest lake is Gull Lake, which I have just really discovered.  It's actually pretty nice, but it seems to be busy as well and again not knowing the area, it's hard to say where we could go that may be less busy.  But Gull Lake was at least busy with families and not a lot of young party kids.

So I've found a beach within 35 minutes of my home so that's improving.  Lil Man loved his day out at the lake and I loved that he was happy playing in the water and sand for FOUR hours and never once bothered me to play with him!! he had a lot of fun with his friend and I was able to visit with my friend.  So it looks like the lake situation in Alberta may be improving but I'd still like to to find some more beaches and options, I still miss my Saskatchewan lakes!!

Tuesday, 8 July 2014

June and a trip to Saskatchewan

It's been a busy month of June.  Busy getting over the baby blues (hormones), end of school, preparing for summer, and just getting into a new routine that works for the boys and me.  I hate saying I am busy, I've actually stopped using that word when people ask me how I've been or however they phrase the question. I legitimately tell them what I am doing or have been up to, because just saying "I've been busy" is a cop out that's like saying you don't have time to give to someone that is expressing an interest in your life and that's not fair.  (this is totally only relevant for me and I do not judge people who still answer "oh I'm so busy" when I ask how they are doing, I realize they have not come to same understanding as I have)  All of this is not to say that we haven't been doing things everyday or most days because we have it's just that I don't want to have my life defined as busy.  But I'm off on a tangent now and I should get back to telling you all about what we've been up to in June. It is July now!!!

June came out of nowhere I swear, but I think it had more to do with the new baby than anything else.  Adjusting the family to the new baby and everything was a huge adjustment.  It's still a work in progress, Lil Man love his baby brother, but our little Teddybear requires a lot of attention, so Lil Man is having to practice patience (does anyone know how to teach children to be patient, because I'm struggling).  He's not super great about being patient either s we've definitely had more tears than usual.  The fact that June is now over amazes me because it just flew by!!

The big events of June were Lil Man finishing Pre  K and our trip to Saskatchewan.

Lil Man loved his school experience!! He had a great teacher and teacher assistants.  We gave them jewelry as a year end gift.  He also came home everyday from school wanting to go's summer holidays and he keeps asking when he's going to school each morning!! He accomplished almost all his IPP goals for the year, the ones he was still working towards I would say had more to do with maturity than to do with ability.

Our trip to Saskatchewan happened for two reasons.  Chandler goes back each summer to spend time with his dad and to work, plus my besties' son, D, graduated from high school and we went to celebrate that milestone.  It's a long trek back to Saskatoon and Prince Albert, but I love visiting everyone and its nice to go home!!

D's graduation party was our first event!! Out at Estelle's acreage she had 73 people in attendance, it was great!! Our Teddybear was a bit overwhelmed with all the attention, but he did quite well and his cousins loved him up!! Lil Man disappeared for hours at a time playing with other kids and I was able to visit with some old friends and I made some new friends!!

While I was in Prince Albert I was able to visit with my other long time besties, Kim, Laleh and Ang.  I always try to get a visit in with my girls because its like a spiritual reset!! I have amazing friends here in Alberta don't get me wrong, but these girls have known me through my teen years and well they just know me in a way I never have to explain. They also aren't shocked by the growth that has happened in my life, so you know its all good!!

After my trip to the north, I returned to Saskatoon. I was able to stay with my sister and we took the boys out to spray parks and swimming!!  I also got to visit with two more of my besties Michelle and Roxann!! I'll be a little sappy here (sorry, not sorry) but I don't think anyone realizes what a peaceful feeling I have come over me when I get to have visits (no matter how short) with these amazing women in my life.  And this does not just apply to the girls in Saskatchewan, this is all the girls who are in my circle of friends.  It's an energy thing for me, nothing beats it!!

Now we are back home, taking on July with vengeance, seems to me like it's going to be september before we even know it!!

Monday, 7 July 2014

Drinking water update

If you haven't read my first blog about drinking water, well this will be news to you, I HATE water, if you have read that blog, well it's old news! But I have stuck to my conviction to drink three litres of water a day.  I think I've had one day where I did not reach the three litre minimum but one day in 2 weeks that's not bad and I didn't let it stop me from continuing on.
After one week of drinking 3 litres of water a day

I've started infusing my water with lime juice from fresh limes and lemons.  I'm going to try some other fruits as well, to see what it's like, and maybe that will help me drink even more water.

Here's some news, there is a bottle of Pepsi in my fridge, it's been there since Monday when hubby got home from camping and I haven't opened it, nor have I even been tempted. Ok I was tempted once but I filled up my water bottle and drank that instead!!

The history behind this big revelation..... If there was a a pepsi anonymous I would be in need of a meeting.  I am a pepsi-aholic! I love Pepsi, I know it's no good for me, but I love it.  I have at many different times in my life given up pepsi (lent, new years resolutions etc) but always after the crack of of the seal, that phssssh sound gets my mouth watering and I just want a cup, but not a small cup, no the largest cup, actually if I could i would just stick a straw in a two litre bottle and suck it down.  I am a pepsi girl over a Coke, I just much prefer pepsi, but I will drink Coke from time to time if it's available.
After two weeks of drinking 3 litres of water a day

It's now two weeks since my deal to drink 3 litres of water a day and I am not minding it at all. It's been easier than I thought, and I'm starting to like drinking it.  I must be growing up now :P

Saturday, 5 July 2014

Tempers flare

Here is a dirty shameful secret I am going to share, I have a temper, and usually I an control it without incident, but every once in awhile it flairs and I see red and then I have a mini explosion and then i feel the worst guilt EVER!!!

The worst of it is, though, these temper flairs are always directed at my kids or loved ones.  And its always the proverbial straw that broke the camels back that does it.  Its never a big thing it's always the last little thing that tips the scale, but I think that's how life is at least my life.  The trouble with my temper is that I have a hugely long fuse and many times things can improve and the fuse expands, but when things don't improve and my nerves continue to be rubbed raw on a daily basis, eventually the dust blows the bomb and it's a big bomb.

It's a lot of yelling, a lot of theatrics, a spank may be involved. (Oh if you are going to pass judgement, go right ahead, but I am not going to pay any attention to those negative comments)  I am owning this story, it's not a great story, but it's part of who I am, and if I don't acknowledge who I am and my shortcomings I cannot improve myself and become a better person for those around me.  And after the quick explosion the tears come, because I am generally frustrated with having lost my temper but also with the behaviours that have rubbed my nerves raw and I need to improve.

Years ago I lost my temper on my oldest son, over him pouting about having to do the dishes.  Such a little thing for him to complain about and really what kid doesn't, but I just lost myself to my temper. I yelled at him, I told him he was ungrateful, he was being an ass, I raised my hand, but I refrained from hitting him, I sent him to his room and I paced downstairs.  He was upset and crying and I felt bad.  Things were rough for both of us, my father was dying in the hospital, he'd been out of school for three weeks and was struggling, I was with my husband at the time and it was a new adjustment for us, it wasn't just the two of us, we had added one more to our family and we had two dogs.  ah the dogs may not have had a lot to do with anything but it was a new experience.  He'd been whining before this event sort of daily for things that he wanted or that he wasn't happy.  After I lost my temper and I was able to cool down, in the midst of being so shamed by the display I went upstairs to talk to him.  Because even though I had said he was a bad, ungrateful kid, he wasn't he just was choosing to be ungrateful and uncooperative because he was dealing with things.  School was hard, he didn't like his teacher he was struggling with assignments, he knew I was struggling because of my dad and he didn't know how to help me.  My oldest is a great kid, he's amazing and I am so proud of him, even when he tries to do things that aren't exactly wise choices.  He owns his choices and he's willing to talk about things with me and I love him unconditionally.  I am proud that I can go back to my kids and admit when I am wrong, that I can tell them I am not perfect and I am human I don't always do everything right but I am trying my hardest.  I hope they see that, I hope they know that I am trying to be the best person I can be for myself and for them.

Tonight, Lil Man was the victim of my temper.  He has this annoying habit of dumping soap into his bath water, and not a tablespoon of soap, but the ENTIRE bottle of baby soap or shampoo.  The first time he did it, I was annoyed, I told him he could not do that and that it was wasteful.  I explained that soap cost money and that he couldn't just be dumping it in the tub, he needed to ask and I would help him with it.  The next time he did, I was irritated, we had talked about this, I had even moved the soap to on top of the toilet so it wasn't in the tub with him. When I asked him why he did it, and he told me well the soap wasn't in the cupboard where he couldn't get it.  I just shook my head at him and explained that he was again being wasteful and that I wouldn't tolerate it anymore.  The third time was at my sisters, she had left the soap with him and he started dumping it in the tub, by now you probably realize that we let him have alone time in the tub, we always check on him and we've taught him safety, and we are trying to increase his independence.  Then before this last disposing of the soap, he got a hold of the sunscreen and lathered so much sunscreen on his arms and legs that he was shiny, like he looked like an oiled stripper.  So we talked about how we didn't need to use so much and we should only use what we needed because using too much was wasteful.  (I hate being wasteful, it's a huge pet peeve for me)  Then tonight he did it again, one of the HUGE bottles of baby shampoo, emptied the entire thing in the tub and then filled the bottle up with water.  His tub water was yellow, YELLOW!! I couldn't believe it, I just lost it, made him get out of the tub tapped his bum  and sent him to his room, telling him he was wasteful and a bad kid.  ( I felt terrible about the bad kid thing) I told him he hadn't listened and asked if he knew he wasn't supposed to play with the shampoo, again I had not left it in the tub area, I had put it on the counter, he had willfully gotten out of the tub and grabbed it.  He told me he knew but he wanted bubbles and then was upset because he got soap in his eyes.  I swear there was more soap in the tub then water, I mean the water was YELLOW!  Then I realized he hadn't washed his hair so I took him back to the bathroom and gave him a shower. He doesn't like showers because he doesn't like to get water in his eyes, I told him to keep his eyes closed while we showered.  Then after the shower I took him back to his room made him get his pjs on and it was straight to bed.  After I had cooled down I went in to talk with him.  I said I was sorry I had tapped his bum, which he would say was a spank and he wouldn't be wrong, I then told him he was a good boy, that I loved him, but that wasting the soap was a bad thing to do and that I would appreciate it if he didn't do that again.  I then asked if he should touch the shampoo or body wash and he answered no, he knew he wasn't supposed to.  We then talked about punishment, he was going to have to help out around the house to do chores to make up for his wasting the shampoos. I took away the screen times he was looking forward to, and we have decided that we will have showers for awhile until he understands not to waste the shampoo.  I just don't know how to teach him about being wasteful, how do you show a child that lives in our society that never wants for anything that just because we can have so much doesn't mean we should??

So there it is, my imperfection, my temper!! I hate my temper and I work hard to keep it under control, but sometimes I have an explosion, then I have a good cry and then I am reset again.  It's not a great cycle, but it's the cycle that works for me.

if anyone has any helpful hints on how to deal with this please share with me, dealing with my temper or how to deal with teaching patience and maybe not being wasteful to children.  Sigh parenting, we all have our demons to fight, this is mine.