Tuesday, 30 November 2010

30 Day challenge Day 14

Do you have siblings? Talk about them or what it's like to be an only child
I have two siblings. Both my siblings are younger than me but I believe we are all really close.

My sister is three years younger than I am. We have gone through phases in our lives where we are really close and then there have been times when we didn’t like each other much. At this point in my life my sister is one of my best friends and I don’t know what I would do without her.

My brother is six years younger than I am. He lives in Red Deer with me so I get to see him a little more frequently than my sister. We are close and I love my brother but he’s very busy with his social life and I am very busy with my home life so they don’t always mesh well. We do what we can though to hang out as a family and I can’t really ask for more.

30 Day Challenge Day 13

Your thoughts or opinions about Mean Girls
Mean Girls, the movie, the book and the real ones in my life.....

I loved the Mean Girls movie and book. They were very enlightening bringing to focus in a positive way a huge problem in our society. No one would have paid attention to girl bullying if the movie hadn’t been funny. Girl bullying is so covert and implied that it is often hard to really identify it for anyone who is on the outside looking in. Makes my job as a teacher that much harder.

Real mean girls in my life, are few and far between. I am sure in high school we have all gone through a time when we may have been considered the mean girl in some one’s life. I think that can be normal. But I knew mean girls. They are what pop culture calls frenemies now. They are those girls that are your “friend” but they will steal your boyfriend, steal the guy you like, choose boys over friends, lie, back stab, talk behind your back, give you back handed compliments. All the while they are smiling in your face. I don’t have any desire to hang out with people who are like that. It’s just not in me to be playing those games anymore. So I work hard to pick my friends cautiously and make cuts when I have to for my own sanity or well being in the self esteem area. It’s hard to pick out the mean girls, and often those mean girls who were such in middle school and high school are not the same mean girls in adulthood.

Sunday, 28 November 2010

30 day challenge Day 12

Your thoughts or opinions about Harry Potter

I am absolutely in love with the Harry Potter franchise.  Finally, a group of characters have been created that both male and female students enjoy and can relate to.  I have been a fan of Harry Potter since I came across the first book and waited on pins and needles for every other book to come out after I had read the third book. 
I love the movies and I truly believe they did a great casting job when they chose the actors to play the characters.  I have had a few issues with the movies and I understand about creative licensing, but sometimes they take it to far.  I believe the Goblet of Fire was the first movie where I took against the Harry Potter movie section of this franchise.  It cut out so many wonderful parts of this story and it appeared chopping in some scenes where characters were almost forced to interact.  Had I not read the book I may not have been able to put the story together.  That was the first movie in the franchise that my son had seen and complained about a little because he had gotten lost.  Thus confirming my belief.
I do love the movies, but I so love the books more.  I think it would have made a great cartoon series as well.  That way you wouldn't have had to cut out parts of the book because of issues with reality getting in the way of fantasy. 
I am looking forward to seeing Part 1 of the final Harry Potter book.  I hope it can live up the expectations I have. 

Saturday, 27 November 2010

30 day challenge Day 11

Name you three favourite bands at this moment

At this moment in time I have many favourite bands, or singers I guess.  It's hard to narrow it down but I will try.
1) Sugarland! I love this band, they have so many up beat songs and I am in love with them.  I have liked them since I first heard them and I love them in concert too!!
2) Zac Brown Band:  I am partial to these guys I really liked their Chicken Fried song and have grown to love them.
3) Aqua: I know they haven't released anything in years and probably won't again but I loved them and I still love them

The others that could be interchanged with the 2nd and 3rd spots would be Pink, Taylor Swift, Eminem( I know bizarre), TLC and Jessica Simpson (pre divorce).  I tried to list bands for my top three since that's what they asked for but as many of my friends will tell you I am a top forty or pop listener those bands will change often.  I am more into songs than bands until I find songs that I love.  Like 3 years ago Mika came out and I loved his song and album but I haven't heard anything from them since so they become part of my albums that I love.

Ask me again in 6 months and I bet my choices will have changed again!!!

Friday, 26 November 2010

30 day challenge day 10

Talk about your pets, or the pets you would like to have

I don't know that I would have pets if it were not for my child.   Chandler loves pets and we have had a few. 

The first pet I ever had was a black and white cat.  Her name was Lexus and she was a very loyal pet and she was quite a bitch.  She did not like males and she only tolerated other people who were not me.  She had a long patience but when that patience wore out she lashed out.  Chandler had many scratches and bites from her because he kept trying to use her as a pillow.  We don't know where Lexus is, she ended up running away from the farm after we had gave her away because Chandler was allergic.  Funny stories about her, she actually got lost twice before but she was definitely the cat that came back.

The second pet I got was Aja.  Aja was a Rottweiler.  She was the gentlest dog ever. I used to tell people to be afraid of Lexus, not Aja. Aja had hip problems and had to be put down I definitely cried when that happened.

Then we had a string of hamsters and a some more caged animals.  There were a few kitties that stayed with us for a bit but none more than two months. 

Now we have a Great Dane (whom we got before the Marmaduke movie made them popular I was finally ahead of the trend lol) and a Crested Gecko.  Chandler was able to talk me into letting him have a Crested Gecko. Lizards, reptiles and the like kind of freak me out, but I like Ninja our little crestie.  She is super easy to take care of and she doesn't stink. Our Great Dane is Sasha, and sometimes she's too big for her own good.  She thinks she's a little dog sometimes which is part of the problem.  She also hates the cold weather and becomes very whiny about any outside activities.  But I like her and would be sad if she left us. 

For our next pet though I would really like to get a smaller dog.  Maybe not a pocket pooch, but a medium sized dog like a king Charles Spaniel or something along those lines.  Unless of course we are living on a farm by that time then maybe I will get something else completely.

Thursday, 25 November 2010

30 day challenge day 9

Favorite meme at the moment

I had no idea what this was until Becky posted her blog, but I can't say that I actually have a favourite.  Unfortunately, or fortunately depends on how you look at it, I don't spend a lot of time on the Internet looking at Youtube or seeing any of those forwards that have gone Viral.  I can't even think of one that I have seen in the past, that I really liked.................

Well there is this one that I have saved into my hotmail account I am not sure if it is considered a meme but it was sent around via email and I got it a few times so maybe it is.... Here it is, it's called Life on a Train.life on a train I found the You tube link for it!!!!

Wednesday, 24 November 2010

Morning Glory

Adrian and I have been neglectful of our dating life over the past year.  I think we have been on four dates since Little Man was born.  For our anniversary last February he made me some coupons for special treats like massages, nights out, weekends away ect.  So on November 7 I handed the coupon for a fancy dinner and movie date and told Adrian that I wanted to have in cashed in by the weekend of November 19th.  I told him I did not want to arrange anything with babysitters or anything like that it had to be all done by him.

So the 20th came, sitters were found for the boys (Chanman went to the collicut center with a friend little man was at grandma and grandpa's) and Adrian and I were off for a long overdue date.  First we went to Moxie's for supper, we actually sat in the lounge which is something we haven't done in FOREVER.  It's hard to sit in a lounge when you are carting a child or two with you.  The supper at Moxie's was very good.  I am usually quite impressed with their servings and I usually try to try something new every time I am there.  After supper we went to the Movies.  We decided (and read I here if you must) to go and see Morning Glory.

I loved this movie.  It was funny and sweet at the same time.  I found the storyline to be interesting and the interactions between the characters were believable.  I really enjoyed Rachel McAdams portrayal of a young producer trying to make a place for herself in the world.  I also like Harrison Ford's cynical portrayal of a news anchor that has been put out to pasture to die on the morning show.  Diane Keaton was interesting as well, her character was slightly less jaded, but you could see if someone proved themselves to her she would support them and be in there corner.  If you are looking for a romantic comedy to go and see I strongly suggest this movie.   

Here is the link to Galaxy Cinema's website to read the synopsis and view the trailer if you wish...Morning Glory.

If you need some further incentive to go to this movie with a significant other, there were more girls than guys in the theater, but the percentage was a lot higher than say a movie like SATC2.  And the men that were in the theater were laughing out loud during all the funny parts as well.

30 Day Challenge Day 8

Are you a couch potato or Fitness Nut?

I would love to say that I was a fitness nut, that I worked out everyday and loved doing it.  Unfortunately, I have to be honest, which isn't the unfortunate part, and admit that I am more of a couch potato then Fitness nut.  If I am not feeling well I use that as an excuse to not work out, if I don't get enough sleep again another excuse, money is tight so I can't afford to pay to work out classes, even Adrian being up and wanting to watch television is a reason for me not to work out.  I am the queen of excuses for not working out.

I had changed my lifestyle before I met Adrian, I was going to the Collicut center in town at least 4 times a week.  I was running and lifting weights and I had lost a lot of weight.  I had gotten back down to my high school weight which was phenomenal.  Then I met Adrian, and I didn't go to the gym as much because I wanted to spend time with him instead.  Then my dad got sick and I had a lot of stress in my life at that point and when I am stressed I eat comfort foods.  Then there was the whole getting pregnant and now here I am a year after having the baby trying to get back into shape.  It's hard work, but I am determined to do it.  I am determined to get to a weight I am comfortable at and do that I have to stop the excuses and just to quote Larry the Cable guy , get r done.

I am positive that after 30 days of my other challenge on my other blog that I will be more of a fitness nut then a couch potato!!:D

Tuesday, 23 November 2010

30 Day Challenge Day 7

How you came across blogging and how your life has changed since joining

I came across blogging by reading friends' blogs.  I had known about it before but when I actually saw people I know doing it I figured why not. 

I started blogging back in October of 2009, right before I went on Maternity Leave. I continued blogging through the year but there were definitely months where I got distracted and didn't blog.  I am doing this 30 day challenge to keep me writing so that I can get into better habits.  It has helped and it has definitely given me a platform to vent from time to time.

I enjoy blogging and reading other blogs.  I just hope people enjoy reading mine.  Maybe one day you will hear about my story being made into a movie.  Lol

Monday, 22 November 2010

I phone 4

Just got me a new phone today!!! It is the I phone 4 I am so excited about it!! I can't wait to get it activated and start perusing all the features... if you get random texts from me and stuff that would be why!!!

If only Bell would answer their phones and not leave me on hold with the phone ringing for 45 minutes maybe then I would become a happier camper!!!

30 day challenge Day 6

Your favorite season + why

My favourite season has always been and always will be Summer.  I love everything about summer.  I wish it were warmer for more days than three like it usually is here in Alberta, but I will take what I can get.  If I could live in a place where it was always hot and green then I would be happy.

I enjoy outdoor activities like swimming, boating, water skiing, tubing and fishing in the summer.  I love campfires and camping (as long as I have a toilet to use and a shower).  I love all the flowers in bloom and the leaves on the trees.  I find the colours of summer are my favourite.  The only thing I can complain about with summer is the mosquitoes... and bugs.  They could be cute if they weren't so annoying and didn't bite you.

Sunday, 21 November 2010

Pet Peeve

My words are my words, and my feelings are my feelings.... so it does irritate me when people make blanket statements about facts that are not necessarily  true. 

It is unfortunate that there are times when you write things that you would like to take back.  It's never fun having to hierarchy your friends.  Who's closest, who's not that close anymore, but the fact of the matter remains that as people grow they become closer and sometimes people grow apart as well.  It's the way life goes. 

I have been dwelling on a situation in my life at this point, and I have blogged about it.  My blog is my words and I will not apologize for them...... I do watch what I write because I do not want to offend anyone, but sometimes it's bond to happen. 

What does bother me is when people make aggressive moves without first waiting for a response from me.  I will have grown up conversations about my words, I will not take them back, but I may be able to repost something clarifying things.  I make sure that what I say is not slandering anyone and I write it so that those who know about past situations can read about them, but so that it does not paint anyone person as a villain.  Especially when talking about things in the past, because obviously, if I am still talking to you it's long and forgotten, and is only brought up because it has a baring on the topic. 

So now I have a "friend", who used to be one of my closest friends.  She just read my Day 4 blog and is upset by it.  She's not in the list of closest friends but she does know the people who are in it.  So she has been offended by this, she apparently tried to call me twice today, I am assuming to discuss said blog, but I was taking some me time because I have been dealing with a sick child.  I know it sounds like I am trying to justify myself, and providing excuses but here's the thing, she has now deleted me from Facebook.  Which is laughable, but what an extreme measure.  Obviously for her, this is not something she wants to discuss and she is insulted that she isn't one of my close friends, that she is now at this point in my life just a friend. 

If she had taken the time to look at my facebook profile she might have seen that I have been dealing with a great deal of shit this past week and maybe she wouldn't be acting like the middle school kids I teach.  Facebook deletion is a big thing, you can't take it back.

30 day challenge day 5

Tell us your 3 favorite colours

My three favourite colours are typical girl colours. And not surprisingly my most favourite colour is going to be part of my wedding.

1) My favouritest colour is blue.  I love all shades of blue from navy blue to aqua or baby blue.  I find blue relaxing and refreshing.  It should be a neutral because I feel that blue goes with everything..... and I guess some blues are considered neutrals. 

2) I love the colour pink as well.  I am not necessarily a fan of all shades but most of the shades of pink I do enjoy very much. 

3) I love the colour purple.  Purple represents royalty and power to me and I love the deep shades of purple, maybe not all the lighter shades but the deeper saturation with the hue purple the better!!!

your favourite colours??

Saturday, 20 November 2010

30 day Challenge Day 4

Write about your closest friend(s)

This has been something I have been thinking about lately.  Who are my closest friends?  Who are the friends that I depend on the most and who are the friends that have shifted in my world.  If I had to choose without thinking long about it the names that pop into my head are Courtney, my sister, Michelle, Estelle, Sharon and Lexus and Alex.  I have known all these girls for different lengths of time.

Courtney and I have known each other all of her life.  We have had a love hate relationship through our childhood and teen age years. Once Courtney had finished school we moved to Saskatoon and lived together very well for years.  She is still one person who I always depend on when I need to talk something through.  She lives in Saskatoon and is going to school to become a nurse.  She is definitely someone I can always count on and she can always count on me.  She was my sister by birth but she is also a sister through choice.

Sharon is my closest friend that I have known the longest.  I have known her longer than I have known my own brother.  One of her favourite memories to tell about me is the time I brought my brother into school for show and tell.  Sharon and I have drifted apart from time to time over the years but now we are as close as ever.  Sharon also lives in Saskatoon but we talk and text regularly and we make an effort to see each other as often as possible.

Michelle and Estelle both live in Saskatchewan.  They are both parents of boys who are around Chandler's age.  That was the first common ground that we had. As we spent more and more time together we found more things in common.  Both girls are near and dear to my hearts. We spend a lot of time on the phone because we now live more than 5 hours apart, but we always make time for each other when I come back to Saskatoon.  

Lexus and I have been friends for almost 10 years. After overcoming some misconceptions that were portrayed to us by other people.  We just knew we had to talk and lay everything out on the table if we were going to be able to hang out.  Which we did and we were all the better for it.  With Lexus we have great communication and sometimes we don't always disclose everything right away, but eventually we do.  There are no secrets between us because from our development as friends we knew we had to be honest because those secrets that we may have tried to keep from one another might have been used to turn us against each other.  Lexus now lives in Vancouver so we don't see each other very often, but thank goodness for Fab Five calling!!!

Alex is from California and she was my summer sister growing up when I would go down to visit my dad.  Alex and I were pretty much joined at the hip.  We were very similar in personality and we became fast friends.  There will be times when Alex and I don't talk for months, but then we will pick up the phone have a gabfest and it's like no time has past.  Alex was definitely a huge support to me during my father's illness, she knew things were tough and she did everything she could to make things easier for me.  I don't know what I would have done without her. I would definitely have been a lost soul.

It's sometimes hard living in Alberta because I have friends here, but they aren't my close friends.  Something is still keeping us apart from creating those relationship definitions and then I miss my close friends from Saskatchewan.  I wish they would all move to Alberta, but I know that won't happen so I make do with what I have and hopefully soon I can start bridging some more distances between the friends in Alberta to develop stronger relationships with those friends, but definitely not at the expense of the friends who are near and dear.

I truly believe that Friends are the family we choose!!!

Friday, 19 November 2010

30 Day Challenge Day 3

Your favorite television program

I can't pick just one. I was really trying to pick just one, but I can't limit my choices.  If I had been asked this question four years ago, I would have been quick to provide an answer, Friends.  Friends is still one of my favourites and I have all ten seasons on DVD, but there are have been a few new shows that have caught my attention in recent years and they aren't edging Friends out, but they are making Friends balance on the top to share that pedestal.

My new favourite comedy is Big Bang Theory.  I think those guys are hilarious!! The comedic timing and dry sense of humour is very indicative of the type of humour I most enjoy.  I really hope this series stays around for the long haul.

I used to love CSI, and I still like it, but in the drama department Criminal Minds and Grey's Anatomy would be in top spot.  I enjoy the story lines and the mystery that is in every Criminal Minds is great.  When I was in High School I read books by Patricia Cornwall (still do) and her stories incorporated the BAU and I really wanted to be a profiler.  I thought it would be an interesting career. I still think it would be interesting but the stress surrounding that job would be too much for me.

Reality Television is so big right now that almost every other show on Network television is a reality series and most shows on cable networks are reality series.  For the most part I am not a fan, I find many of the reality tv shows to be contrived and not entertaining at all.  But, well those who know me know, I love Survivor and Big Brother. They are my reality television fixes.  I have also become partial to Gene Simmons Family Jewels.

So I may watch a lot of television, but I am trying to cut down, I have not begun watching many new series because I know I am busy with the series I have and I can't give up any more time.  But we will see what the future holds.  May have to cut down my cable for a bit, just to break this trend for awhile.

Thursday, 18 November 2010

30 Day Challenge Day 2

 Talk about your piercings + tattoos, if you have any

Piercings and Tattoos.... well that just doesn't seem like a very interesting topic for me.  I have four piercings that I can actually put earrings into and three piercings that have grown over.  I have absolutely zero tattoos and zero desire to actually get a tattoo.

I have four piercings in my ear lobes, two in each ear.  I had three in each ear lobe but the furthest ones up have grown in and grew in so long ago I almost forgot about them.  The last piercing I had was my navel. I had that one until I was five months pregnant with Little Man.  I then took it out and it's closed up so I can't put my navel rings back in.

I don't mind the piercings, I like to wear earrings, and I loved my navel ring, it gave me motivation to be skinny so I could show it off ;).   I have never wanted to get anything else on my body pierced, I just don't see the point to it.  I am not much for inflicting pain upon myself.

As I don't like to inflict pain upon myself, this is a perfectly good explanation for not having tattoos.  I also hate needles and the thought of a needle repeatedly piercing my skin, makes me squeamish.  I agree that there are some very nice tattoos out there, but I don't have anything that I am so passionate about that I would want it forever etched on my body.  Maybe one day, when I become a millionaire from writing a great Canadian Novel, then I will have the novels cover tattooed on me with my kids names on the bindings.  But until that happens I will be a blank canvas, or a canvas that plays with Henna tattoos.

30 Day Challenge Day One

Your middle name, and how you feel about it.

It's weird thinking about my middle name.  It's always been a name I have had, but not one that I would celebrate having.  I generally do not volunteer my middle name, and when I think about why it has to be that I just don't really like it.  It's not a horrible name by any means, but it's not a name that I think suits me.  But then it must because it's stuck with me through my life. 

In the 90s the movie Thelma and Louise came out giving my middle name some notoriety.  But then this was a movie about two strong women that drive a car into the Grand Canyon!?! maybe not quite the notoriety I wanted for my middle name.

But when I think about my middle name now I am happy with it.  It is not a common name, it isn't even a really common middle name.  I have many friends with the middle name May spelt in any variation of the name, but that is a common middle name.  And I think I would have cried if I was Jennifer May.  Not because May is a bad name, but because then I would have had the two most common girls names and there would be no uniqueness about my name.  Could you imagine if my last name were Smith or Miller??  God I would be S. O. L in the name department and would have really had to work to make a distinction for myself.

So I came up with and Acrostic poem for my middle name and here it is:

Did you catch my middle name?? What about you, how do you feel about your middle name??

Tuesday, 16 November 2010

30 day Challenge

30 Day Challenge

"I saw this on another blog that I enjoy reading and I think I am going to give it a try. I will start tomorrow. I think you guys should give it a try too. If you don't have a blog, you can do it via the Note application on facebook or whatever social networking site you may use...."

Thirty Day Challenge

1. Your middle name, and how you feel about it.

2. Talk about your piercings + tattoos, if you have any

3. Your favorite television program

4. Write about your closest friend(s)

5. Tell us your 3 favorite colors

6. Your favorite season + why

7. How you came across blogging and how your life has changed since joining

8. Are a fitness guru or a couch potato? Talk about your exercise habits

9. Favorite meme at the moment

10. Talk about your pets, or the pets you would like to have

11. Your top 3 favorite bands

12. Your thoughts or opinions about Harry Potter

13. Your thoughts or opinions about Mean Girls

14. Do you have siblings? Talk about them or what it's like to be an only child

15. Tell us your favorite junk food

16. Your favorite Disney Princess movie

17. Your thoughts on UGG boots

18. Do you drink soda more often then milk?

19. The initials of your crush(es)

20. Do you wear glasses? If so, what are they for?

21. Your favorite subject to study

22. Do you play a sport? If not, talk about a different hobby you may have

23. YOur opinions on Lady Gaga

24. Tell us about the last movie you saw in theatres

25. Tell us about the last book you read

26. Name one place you would like to visit and why

27. List your favorite 3 girls names, 3 favorite boy names and your 3 favorite names for a pet

28. Your first celebrity crush

29. Your opinions on the television show GLEE

30. Take a photo of yourself right now and post it, or post the most recent photo you can find.

Thanks Becky for the idea!!!

Stop and smell the roses

I know I am blogging a lot today.  It's just that I have the time and motivation to do so, so let's just roll with it!!!

The other day I was walking to my friend Roxi's house with Little Man.  Little Man began walking three weeks ago and he's very excited to do so and I encourage him to walk by letting him down and holding his hand while he toddles along.  So we were at Roxi's house for her Little Guy's second birthday.  The birthday party started at 3 and Little Man and I were running late because he had slept in from his nap.  The other issue was that Little Man and I were booked solid from that point on, birthday party then supper with Aunty Estelle at Red Lobster at 4:30.  I wanted to spend as much time as possible visiting everyone.  I always feel this way when I go back to Saskatoon, it's so busy and rushed trying to fit everyone in for a visit.  Anyways, I digress, as we were walking up the sidewalk I was thinking in my head, "hurry up, walk faster, come on let's go" and then Little Man fell down because quite possibly my thoughts were manifesting into actions by walking faster than he could.  I stooped down and put him back on his feet and he just looked at me.  It was that look that prompted this thought. "Why was I in such a hurry?"

Life has changed in the past few years.  We are always rushing to get things done, to finish our checklists and to move onto the next task.  We no longer have time to just walk and enjoy the sunshine, even if you think that's what you are doing, you are keeping things on a schedule so that you can move to the next task when it is "time".  Children start out walking very slow, they are watching everything that is going on around them.  They take in everything and are so happy about what they see and what they are experiencing.  Yet, we as adults and parents are rushing them onto the next task, and we become frustrated when we are slowed down.  How many times have you walked with your child and then just scooped them up because you can walk faster??  How many times have you rushed your child through a new experience because you had to finish supper, get groceries or any number of other menial tasks.  I mean the tasks have to get done, but are they more important than building those memories and life learning experiences with your child?

I know I have come to this conclusion before, I know that I have forgotten this lesson before.  So how do I keep this lesson in my fore thoughts, so that I don't rush my way through my children's childhood??  How do you make sure you build memories each day with your children??

Dr. Phil episode...... Dirt, Lies and the internet......

Well as I may be playing with fire, here is my take on this Dr. Phil episode.  I know my friend has blogged about this and has since had to remove her blog because someone did not respect her opinions and made some inappropriate comments.  Therefore, I know my opinions may ruffle some feathers.

But here it goes. 

My sister and I watched this episode of Dr. Phil.  And I will admit that the topic was an interesting one.  It's one that has crossed my mind from time to time.  Why not have a tabloid site for regular people?  Now I do not agree with just posting pictures to have the general public make fun of those people, that's not fair nor is it right.  People should have a right to face their attackers, I mean if you get accused of a crime you get to face your accusers. 

So this is where I will in a way defend Nik Richie..... what he does on his site is really no different than what Perez Hilton does on his or Hollywoodlife.com does on theirs.  The big difference is that Nik Richie goes after real people that are submitted by his Dirty Army, where Hollywoodlife.com and Perez Hilton go after celebrities.  So how can we attack Nik Richie for what he does, but let Perez Hilton and the like get away with what they are doing and not blame them.  Simply because Perez Hilton and the tabloids feature stars does not excuse their behaviour.

Here is where I will not defend Nik Richie.... I spent a little time on his site. In moments of anger I would think about sabotaging people via viral web based publications... sure.... but should I?? If I put it out there I can't ever get it back.... it's out there forever.  I may "delete" it but those good hackers can get it and if it's already taken on a life of it's own, then it can be very damaging to the person it's about (I know this just showed a very dark side to me :S)  Here is the other difference between tabloids and Nik Richie, although most stories in tabloids are negative, there are some that are positive, some that celebrate celebs lives, I have not seen one of those on Thedirty.com.  There has to be balance... so why not create a website that celebrates the lives of regular people?  I mean we all do it if we use Facebook or twitter.  We post stuff about our lives and let others comment on them.  Sometimes the comments are jesting, other times they are serious, but only you know the truth behind what your friends are saying.  How would I do that?? 

To tell you the truth, I find celeb news addicting, I want to know what's going on, but there are times when I am like, why can't I find a posting about friends or real people in general.  Why do the celebs get all the attention?  Wouldn't celebs like to read about what is going on in regular people's lives like we like to read about theirs.  Maybe if that happened people would have a better understanding of what it's like to live under the microscope, and maybe people wouldn't be so quick to judge or pass judgement.

I don't know.....it's all what it is.... Nik Richie had an idea, and maybe he is not monitoring it as well as he should, maybe he needs more balance on his site.  But he had an idea and sadly he is making money from it, but I don't cast him in the role of "all that is evil" because Perez Hilton is in that lot as well....

So what do you think??

Monday, 8 November 2010

Making Tough Decisions

To my friends, Reason, Season or Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

I am just wondering how many other people have done this following scenario.

In dealing with friends, there often comes a time when it feels like a 
relationship has run it's course and by holding onto that relationship you 
are causing yourself and the other person more harm then good. 
 This isn't the ending of a relationship because you have had a fight with
 someone.  This isn't the ending of a relationship because you are mad, 
or bitter, or jealous.  I am speaking of those times when you talk to a 
friend, a friend you have shared many memories, situations and 
experiences but as you are talking you realize the conversation has 
become superficial. It is similar to talking to someone you just met 
whom you don't want to share too much information because something 
is telling you not to, it's usually your gut.  

The above quote that I began this blog with is just that precursor to situations.  In my life at this moment there are only a few people I regret having been introduced into my sphere of knowing. One being that little tramp that stole my dad's money and blinded him with lies.... I cannot yet see a reason for her coming into my life.... I may never find out what that reason is, but I loathe and detest her.  I don't think about her if I can help it, but when I do those feelings shoot straight up to the surface and if I thought about her more I would be expending a lot of energy on something that does not deserve my time or energy.  The other are also people who bring up a lot of feelings of resentment and hurt, because of past betrayals, however, as many years have passed since this time, I am beginning to see what lessons they have helped me learn, and how I have grown as a person from knowing them.  

What is the best way to deal with someone whom you have built a friendship with but it is becoming clear that the friendship has grown stagnate and is only creating a greater harm to you and the other person??  Do you aggressively tell them you don't wish to speak to them anymore, what if they haven't come to that same conclusion? Do you passively let the relationship continue even though is brings up negative feelings? Do you passively-aggressively just ignore them until they get the hint?  Do you take the assertive path and let them know that from  your view times have changed and it's time to cut ties as the relationship seems to becoming toxic for both people?

I wonder sometimes how much we revert back to old roles when dealing with old friends.  Do we project onto our friends the roles we expect them to have and when they change do we subconcsiously sabatoge them so they revert back to the norm?  Do we change in our life, but when around these old friends do we go back to old well known patterns because that is what is comfortable?  

I believe that everyone can change, because as we grow we change, as we experience new life changing moments we grow, we reestablish priorities, our tastes in things(food, music, movies) all change.  However, are there times when you feel like all the changes you have made are for nothing because that friend is just making you feel like you are right back in a time when things were negative or not as positive as they should be.  

How do you walk away from a relationship, when walking away is not directed out of anger, but just out of maturation, and changes in life that make your common ground with that person so small it's almost nil?  How do you walk away from a relationship when it has more to do with a loss of that common ground but also a preceived sense of loss in trust on one person's part or both?  

I am right in the middle of this situation but I want to handle it with maturity.  I am not thinking of walking away because I wish to be mean, I am thinking of walking away because I think it's best for us.  I know this person is a good person, she has a lot of potential to do very well in her life, but maybe my friendship with her is holding her back, is making her repeat old patterns because I am subconsciously projecting those patterns onto her in our relationship.  Maybe subconsciously she feels she needs those patterns because some of the changes scare her and cause her to not see her for who she truly needs to be.  In all relationships, both parties contribute to what the relationship looks like. I can't in all honesty say the other person is completely to blame because I had an equal partnership role in this relationship.  So what do I do??