Monday, 22 February 2010

Two Years!!

It sometimes seems hard to believe, but Adrian and I have been together for two years now.  It's hard to believe because it feels like it should be longer. I do feel like I have known him forever, but it's only been two years.  It hasn't always been easy, but it's never been hard, if that makes any sense. 

I can't say I know without a shadow of a doubt what the next few years will bring, but I am confident of this. As long as Adrian and I continue to keep our communication up and are willing to work through things, everything will be fine.  He's a great guy and I have definitely fooled him lol, just kidding, I am not that evil.  We have fun together and at times it feels like we have to work through different areas of life, it never feels like we are working against each other, just with each other. 

I don't believe relationships should ever always be super easy, and if yours is then that's wonderful, but I believe to keep a relationship going strong you  have to put some effort into it. Sometimes it's about putting your wants aside to help your partner, sometimes it's about stepping up and proclaiming what you want which isn't easy, sometimes it is about rocking the boat to get over that hump of stagnation.  It's not like it's hard work, but it's making those decisions and compromising to meet in the middle.  Adrian does make this easier to do then anyone else I have ever been with, and I do believe it's because we are very compatible our personalities are not in conflict and our desires are similar. 

So now that we have two years under our belts I look forward to two more, twenty two more, one hundred and two more, however many more there are!!!

Random Musings

To my Children
I spent 9 months anticipating your arrival
I spent approximately 24 hours labouring for your birth
I spent 6 months teaching you to sit up
I spent 8 months teaching you to crawl
I spent 12 months teaching you to walk
I spent 18 months teaching you to talk
I will spend my whole life teaching you respect, love, and responsibility.
I can spend all this time with you and not once will it feel like work
I will spend the rest of my life loving you and protecting you as you move further and further from me.
This is the life of a mother.
Love mom

Friendships

New friends, old friends, acquaintances and close friends

My new friends share my present,

those everyday battles we all face.

My old friends share my history,
growing up and maturing together.

My acquaintances know me
what of me I allow.

My close friends are the chosen,
the ones who extend my family.

But all are treasures that I hold dear.

Saturday, 20 February 2010

Recovery Day 2

So yesterday's procedure went well. I think there are a lot of horror stories out that about having teeth pulled but mine went fine.  There was some  discomfort, and a gross taste in my mouth, I could feel pressure as he was digging the teeth out, but that was it.  That was it for the actually procedure, now it comes for the recovery.

I don't think the Ativn worked, I never felt "out of it" and I have not forgotten what happened yesterday.  I remember it all.  The only thing I can say for yesterday is that it seemed to pass by very quickly.  I couldn't believe when it was 9 pm last night, I didn't realize that most of the day had passed my by.  But I can still recall everything that I did so there is no amnesia.

I woke up today and I wanted to cry.  My mouth hurts so much.  I can't fully open it, so I am using baby spoons to eat my yogurt.  The thought of chewing on food brings tears to my eyes.  My face is swollen and sore to touch, so finding a comfortable way to lay down is an interesting challenge. I have to watch how I hold little man too, he likes to head butt sometimes and that would sting.  It's like I have a huge bruise from ear to ear but you can't really see it except for the swelling.  Having never been punched in the face I can't tell if this is what it feels like, but it's sore, a dull ache that sometimes spikes up if you move the wrong way.

I will honestly let you know I thought it would be worse, a hundred times worse.  I was ready to compare it to labour, but it wasn't comparable.  At least not the pain, the pressure when he pulled the teeth was similar to pushing on an epidural.  So don't be afraid, it's not as bad as it sounds or seems.

Friday, 19 February 2010

I have SURVIVED.....for now

Well I made it to the dentist, and my dentist thinks he's a comedian.  I was pretty nervous so it was hard for me to laugh at his jokes.  They froze my entire mouth and then they got to work on taking out two teeth at t a time.  First they did the two on my left side, then they gave me a break.  They came back and took the two on my right side.  I have all four wisdom teeth now at home with me I want to show them to Chandler.  I have gauze in my mouth for the bleeding, they say I didn't bleed that much, but I am still with a piece of gauze in my mouth and it's been three hours since I left the dentist office.

So far I have taken no pain medication, mostly because my mouth is so frozen i choke when I try to intake liquids.  I didn't mind the whole yanking and stuff it wasn't too bad, at least not what I had worked up in my head.  It's this recovery time that is going to suck.  I can already feel pain radiating in my jaw.  Once this freezing passes Tylenol and I will be getting along well.  I also have an antibiotic to take and a mouth rinse.

I will keep you updated... for some fun here are some horrible pictures of me now in the moment!!
right side, swollen jaw line

Left side swollen jaw line

and me with no makeup on :S there is some swelling along my chin and mouth

Wisdom Teeth Removal

So after about ten years of waiting to have this procedure done I am finally having my wisdom teeth removed.  I was scheduled to have it done about ten years ago in Saskatchewan, at some office in the Midtown tower, but as I didn't have health insurance and it was going to cost more than my student budget would allow for I put it off.  They weren't really bothering me back then so it was no big deal.

Then three weeks ago, they really started to hurt, the bottom two anyways.  So I made an appointment to have them removed and that brings us to today.  I am sitting here typing this waiting for the Ativan to kick in.  I am scared that it won't kick in and after the nightmares I had last night well let's just say it wasn't any fun waking up and then realizing that it was all in my head and I still had to go through the procedure.

The first nightmare I had last night I dreamt I had taken the Ativan, placed it under my tongue and it would not dissolve, and you aren't supposed to swallow until it's dissolved. I don't know what happened at this point but eventually the Ativan disappeared and I was ready to go. Then it just made me so tired I kept falling asleep on the chair while the dentist extracted my teeth.  Bonus to that dream, there was no pain in the procedure just a lot of loud crunching noises.

The second nightmare I had I don't think the Ativan had any effect on me or I didn't take it for some reason.  But I would hyperventilate in the chair while he was trying to extract the teeth.  So then they couldn't be removed.

The last nightmare I had involved bleeding.  Apparently I was a bleeder and it was GROSS.  That's all I can say, I don't feel like spreading that horrible dream, or reliving that horrible dream.

I am hoping the first nightmare, which wasn't really a nightmare in the end is the scenario I go through today.  I have my fingers crossed.  I am not sure what to expect from the Ativan, I don't know if it's working yet or how long it takes to begin working.  They tell you to take it an hour before your appointment, so  maybe it takes some time, to kick in.  Fingers are crossed that it all goes well!!!  I will update you later.  If it's all garbled well then we will know that the Ativan worked. lol

Thursday, 18 February 2010

Weight Loss Tracking #3

So soon our Biggest Loser Competition will come to an end.  We have another two weeks left.
Unfortunately, or fortunately I guess, I have not lost weight like the competitors on the show.  I have lost weight and it's been a good amount, I can see changes in my body from the weight loss.  I have some good eating habits now established, but I do recognize that I have work left to do and when this competition is over I am going to continue on my weight loss path.

So far I think I have lost about 7 pounds, I am aiming for 10 by the end of the competition.  So I have just over two weeks left to lose 3 pounds.  I think I should be able to do that.  If that happens I will be at my pre pregnancy weight!!! So very excited!!!

The next goal will be to lose another 15 pounds to be at my ideal weight.  I know I can do it, because I did it before, two years ago, then it will just be a matter of maintaining that weight which, barring any unplanned pregnancies, shouldn't be too hard.

The weight loss, surprisingly, for me is not what I am happiest about.  I mean I am happy I have lost weight, but it's those other things that make me happier.  I am feeling healthier, eating better and I feel more energetic.  That energy is what excites me most!!! Now I have more energy to divide amongst all the things I love, more energy for me equals more time!!!  Time for the things I love is the biggest benefit of this competition and I am so glad I got involved with it!!!

Tuesday, 16 February 2010

Someone please Explain

Do you understand why you are required to write a will or set up a living trust?  Do you have a will or trust set up for your loved ones?  Does it even matter in the long run if you set up a will or trust?  Why am I asking these questions well I will explain.

My father set up a living trust for his estate in the event of his death.  He distributed in that trust his possessions and his estate.  He laid out in the trust how he wished the trust to be handled after his death.  His trust even laid out guidelines for what was to happen if he became incapacitated, he had advanced Health directives.  He spent all this money setting up this trust and working to protect his estate from the government and any other evil little spawn who may try to access his money.  He did this because he did not want me to have to worry about money after he was gone, he wanted me to be taken care of, or to at least have a little "nest egg" as he called it that I could use in the event of an emergency.  Now if you read my last blog about the remarriage issue this is an extension of that blog.

See my father did remarry.  He was told that his new wife, Jhoan Flores of the Phillipenes would not get any of his estate because she had not been married to him for long enough.  He spent the last eight months of his life moving through red tape to get his wife into the states.  It NEVER happened, she is still in the Phillipenes, yet she has a LONG reach.  She is claiming that she is entitled to HALF of my dad's estate because she married him.  Don't even get me started on the validity of their marriage, I do not believe that it is valid and neither did the Immigration department. 

Now this Jhoan has gotten a lawyer, Richard Littorno of Pittsburg California.  He is representing her saying that she is the omitted spouse.  That my father just forgot to change his will to include her and to give her half of everything he spent his entire life building up.  This is a complete joke, because my father told EVERYONE that he did not want her to have anything.  He even had his lawyer draft up a codicil to his will that stated this.  But because he never got to sign it, apparently it does not exist. 

So now I am in a legal battle trying to protect my father's estate and his dreams from this person.  I am protecting my father's AMERICAN DREAM from a foreigner.  What absolutely floors me is that an AMERICAN is defending her, is saying that this foreigner has a right to his estate.  This foreigner who did not give my father anything in the time she knew him, did not contribute to his estate in any way, who harrassed him while he was in the ICU and Cardiac Department of the Hospital in his last month of life, saying he wasn't doing enough to get her over the the states, is trying to get half of his estate.  So even though my father had a will, had a living trust drawn up, apparently in the state of California it means NOTHING.  So again I ask why did he even bother?  Should I even bother?? I know for a fact that when I do I will be making sure that I know all the scenarios so that my children are protected so that they do not have to go through this.  But I also know I WON'T be marrying some Fillipeno later in life and allowing them access to my estate.

I am so angry about this whole situation, so angry that it makes me laugh.  I am looking for Karmic retribution but I am not sure what my family did to deserve this heartache, but everything happens for a reason and even though I can't see it right now eventually this will all  make sense.

Monday, 15 February 2010

The Olympics

So my brother is in a competition to win to be the face of the games.  he would like me to spread the word of his video so people will vote for him.  Here is the link to go and vote for Nellie.  Thanks for your support!!Nellie's video

Saturday, 13 February 2010

Remarriage of a parent

I am all for your parents being happy and doing those things in life that will make them happy.  I would hope that if my mother found someone that made her happy she would do whatever it took to keep her happy.  If that meant remarrying, or moving in with him or adopting another child if that's what makes her happy then she should do that. What I don't agree with is your parents doing something that will not fulfill their happiness even if they think it will.  That is a very convoluted statement, let me qualify it.

My father told me he was going to remarry back in 2007.  He said he had been talking with a girl from the Phillipenes and had decided to marry her.  I asked how long they had been talking and how old she was.  He did not want to answer either questions, so I knew he was embarrassed by the answers but I pressed on and he answered.  They had been talking for two months and she was 24 years old.  My father was 62.  I was disgusted, I couldn't understand how he could want to marry someone who was younger than his own daughter. 

I was not the only family member to be upse with my father.  We did not believe that he was marrying her for the right reasons.  Actually to be honest we did not believe she was marrying him for the right reasons.  WE believed that he had been duped by her and ws being brainwashed by people who had her best interests at heart, not his.  We believed that she was after his money and passage into the United States.  We tried to talk him out of it, we expressed that we did not support his decision, we refused to accept her into OUR family.  He was welcome to continue to be part of our family but he would have to keep her away.  I told my father that I would no longer come to California to stay with him if she was living there because I didn't want to have to explain this situation to my son.  I told him we could go for supper and visit but if she so much as came with in 25 yards of my son the visit was effectively ended and would not be resumed until she was not around.  I was not against my father finding happiness, but a mail order bride from the Phillipenes was not going to be what did it.

Now I am thinking about this situation, I know that it is a horrible situation, but I am not against the marriage of a parent.  But knowing what I know now I would not suggest that if you are in a situation where your parent could remarry later in life that you take a back seat to this situation.  I would say that you sit down with your parent and their chosen have a talk.  If you can't sit down with the chosen because they live too far away WARN your parents to make sure their interests and families are protected and to do what they can to protect themselves from these people.  It's not about not being happy with a new partner, it's about not making your family live through a horrible nightmare after you are gone.

Tuesday, 9 February 2010

Please read link first to understand this rantRed Deer Advocate - Prayers for a family

Red Deer Advocate - Prayers for a family

When is enough enough???  

My brother informed me about this incident in Red Deer on Sunday.  I just now pulled up the Advocate to read what happened to these poor people.  This tragedy just makes me ill.  It was a completely preventable accident.  Are all accidents preventable, yes but some, like this one, are more preventable then others.  How do we get people to start paying attention to the facts.  Drinking and Driving kills!!!! There are so many alternatives to drinking and driving.  You could call a taxi, call a sober friend, arrange for a friend to be the designated driver, be the designated driver, walk, Red Deer even has a program called Driver Take home where some one comes to the bar and drives you home in your vehicle while another person follows.  There are so many safe alternatives so why do people continue to make these idiotic choices??

Responsible choices, being responsible, being a grown up, that's what this comes down to.  I was an active member of SADD when I was younger, then I didn't have a group to belong to and well I became drinking age.  I will admit I didn't always make the right choice, but I tried and I was lucky I never found myself in a situation where I harmed someone else or myself.  I speak to my child about making proper choices, that he should call me for a ride, or call a cab or not drink at all. At his age the not drinking at all is quite possible, it's not that he's too young, as I am aware children his age are drinking and do far worse, but with his family values and the house he is growing up in it's highly unlikely that he would get away with drinking at this point in time.  How do you reach these high school children?  How do you reach this 20 something crowd?

I am so sick about this situation.  Those poor people had 5 children they were caring for, and now those children have lost their parents.  Two of the children were not biologically their children, so what is going to happen to them??  Well most likely they will be moved to a new home, but not only have these two being removed from their biological parents care, they are now being moved from this home, it's very hard on children to have this much instability. I can't understand how this guy just walked away from this accident, why does it always seem to go like that??  Why can't the people who were sober, walk away after being hit by the drunk driver??

I am angry with this Olsen character as well.  He's effectively ruined at least 8 lives.  Two lives he has ended, five children have lost parents and his own life is kaputt.  Do I think jail is a great place for him?? Surprisingly no.  I know he has killed two people and he should pay for that, but by spending time in jail he is not going to be able to do anything productive and it won't bring these people back.  What should he do instead??  I think he should pay a debt to society by having to go out and do talks with children and teens and twenty something people.  He should become a spokesperson for the impact of drinking and driving.  He should have to contribute to a community the way this family was contributing to this community.  Maybe he gets out on day release to do this and the rest of the time he spends time in jail.  Should he be able to walk away from this unscathed?? Never!!!  There just has to be a better solution.

I think society needs to make a change, they need to make a big change!! Here is an idea I am proposing.  I think anyone who gets a DUI or is in an accident from driving drunk should have to take a course.  Much like if you get caught with improper car seats you get a fine but you have the option to take a course instead of paying the fine.  So you take this course on the proper installation of car seats and instead of just paying a stupid fine, you learn how to prevent your children from being hurt AND you learn how not to have the same thing happen again. Why can't DUI's and stuff go through the same thing??  Do they???  I think a big thing for DUI and people causing accidents when they are drunk is to have them do some community service and to go to a course that is geared directly at their offense, not to some AADAC course that is general and could be about drugs or alcohol.  And people who speak in these courses should be people that have caused severe accidents and are paying the highest price for their decisions, as well as the people who have been impacted the most because of someone's decision.  

I am totally going to join a MADD chapter here in town and if one does not exist I am going to start it up. New Goal for 2010 become active in MADD.

Saturday, 6 February 2010

Kipping and skipping

So now that the new year is well underway and we are into February I thought I would reflect on my new year's resolutions.  It's been a month and I have been working very hard at most of my resolutions.  I write most days, maybe not for an hour or more, but I usually sit down and do about half an hour of writing a day.  I am working at doing nice things for others, it's not always easy, but I am keeping my eyes open for those opportunities to do nice things for others.  


My one big resolution, one of the most popular resolutions, to lose weight has also been going well.  I am going to Crossfit at Ignite gym at least two to three times a week.  I am moderating my food intake and trying to keep from eating unhealthy foods.  It's not always easy, but I do the best I can.  I have not eaten fast food, with the exception of A & W in Provost, since the New Year.  I am losing weight, it's not coming off dramatically, but it is coming off and I am feeling better every day.


I went to a workshop today at Ignite to learn how to Kip and how to improve my technique for Double Unders (double jumping while skipping).  I had a great time but now my palms are so sore from gripping the bar for so long.  I think I have finally gotten the kipping down to be able to do the pull ups, but I'm not that great at them yet.  But now that I have learned the proper technique I can practice that technique and improve until I can finally do it.  I think i did a couple today, it was coming but my arms and hands got so tired I was unable to preform many in a row.  As for the double unders, it was all about flicking my wrists faster to be able to get the rope under my legs faster.  I also had to remember not to bend my knees when dong the double under, I was able to do three in a row, which is an improvement over none.  Lol


Now I am going to continue with my New Year's Resolutions, but I am renaming them from this point forward.  They are now my 2010 Resolutions, because they are not going  to be resolutions just for the new year, they are resolutions for the whole year!!!


Thanks for reading!!!

Wednesday, 3 February 2010

New Career, new possibilities!!!

A few weeks ago I began contemplating starting a home based business. I love staying home with my little man and I do not want to have to go back out into the work force full time leaving him to be raised by someone else.  Unfortunately, Adrian and I are not in a position where it is feasible for me to stay home without earning some kind of income.  Also I refuse to be dependent on a man, absolutely refuse.  So I have considered doing a day home, but I really feel I need to do something, at least part-time, that would get me out of the house and have me socializing with adults.  Enter Tamara, my Fifth Avenue Collection Jeweler, she presented me with the option of also becoming a Fifth Avenue Collection Jeweler.


Fifth Avenue Collection is a home based business that started in Moose Jaw, Saskatchewan. It has fabulous pieces of jewelry and it feels like something I would like to do.  So I signed up!!!  I am very excited to announce that I am now a Fifth Avenue Collection Jeweler.  It is something new and exciting and I feel I will be good at it!!  Now it may not make me millions, at least not right away ;), but it should give me an income that can help me pay for the wedding of my dreams and allow me the opportunity to stay at home longer with my little man.  Or at least afford me the option to choose to do so when my Maternity Leave runs out.  


I have a website you can visit if you are interested in purchasing some new pieces of jewelry AND if you want to host a party you can email me.  Don't worry I will probably be calling you and putting that bug in your ear anyways.  In the mean time check out the website, see if there is anything you really want then we can open up a discussion on all the ways you can get that piece!!!
The website is www.fifthavenuecollection.com/jlacourse and my email is jennlacourse@facmail.com .

Tuesday, 2 February 2010

Wedding 2011: The Date has been Set

So after the proposal, and acceptance of that proposal, was announced everyone asked us when we were getting married. "When is the big day?" "When will you get married?" were questions we were asked every time we told people about our engagement. 


We speculated that we would possibly get married in May 2010.  We had reasoned that we were supposed to be going on a family vacation to Mexico for my mothers birthday, so while we were down there we may as well get married too.  That way we would "kill two birds with one stone", and not force two trips on my family in one year.  (We are very conscientious of others)  With all that has gone on this year we haven't been able to get those plans set up.  And now it felt like May of this year was way to close so we needed more time.


I will admit that I am a micro-manager.  I like to know everything that is going on and have all my plans made and confirmed.  I like to give people ample time to prepare for big trips as well, so we needed a new date.


We tossed around a couple other dates, like October 10, 2010.... 10/10/10.  Then we thought maybe in December sometime.  We would still go to Mexico if it was in December.  I do NOT want to get married in the snow.  Then we considered August 2011.  No real reason for August except it's the same month we got engaged in and it seemed like a good idea.  We talked with our families and after considering what would work out best for everyone we picked a date.
We decided that August 2011 would be the best time, then Adrian and had to pick an actual date.  We finally picked August 15, 2011. 


August 15, 2011 is a Monday.  The reason we picked to get married on a Monday is two fold, one it's cheaper, and two it would allow people time to travel down on the weekend before the wedding. Especially if people wanted to drive down.  So that is the Date and Location.  Oh we tossed out Mexico because it would be so hot down there in August.  We decided we didn't need to go there in August it would be much more enjoyable to go there later on in the winter.

Wedding 2011: Location Location Location


 When Adrian and I first became engaged we talked about where we would get married.  I am from California and grew up in Saskatchewan and he is from Alberta.  We had three different locations to choose from and big decisions to be made. I had decided a long time ago that I wanted to go away to get married.  The idea of getting married on a beach had always appealed to me.  Adrian is such a great guy he just wants to give me everything I want.  That's one of the reason's I love him lol.


So we talked with our parents and we considered getting married in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico.  We figured it would be a nice tropical location and we could do both our wedding and honeymoon at the same time.  That was the initial decision.  After much contemplation a new idea came into being.  We still wanted to go away for our wedding, but we decided that Mexico was not going to be the place.  I will explain more about why we cut out Mexico in the blog about setting the date.


My favourite place Earth, that I have been to, is Lake Tahoe.  I have loved Lake Tahoe since my first visit there in 1995.  In 1995 I went to Lake Tahoe with my father for a wedding of his friend Darlene.  I stomped my feet and complained about going.  Inspite of my best efforts to hate the place I fell in love with it.  I decided at that moment that when I got married I would get married in Lake Tahoe.  I even want to buy a cabin there so I can vacation there.  I would move there to live year round, but that might wreck the magic of the place.  One of my best friends also go married in Tahoe and I still loved the place.  I am so excited to say that my wedding will also be in Lake Tahoe.


It is an ideal location for us.  It is close to the Bay Area in California so my California family can come with ease.  My Canadian family will come regardless and it's not so hot that my grandma will be uncomfortable there.  Adrian's family is larger and all in Alberta but as we are going to get invitations out by this summer it will give them all enough time to plan.


Here are some pictures I found online of Tahoe, to help illustrate why I love it!!  this first photo was found at that Scott Howard Website.  Click the link below it to see more fabulous pictures.
It's a photo of South Lake Tahoe.  I love the idea of getting married on a beach with the mountains surrounding us!!!
This is another photo of the beaches at Tahoe.  The water is so clear, you can see all the way to the bottom of the lake.  If you are scared of heights don't look down while you are swimming out to the dock!!

So those are just a couple of the reasons we have chosen Lake Tahoe.  Now all I have to do is get down there to get all my bookings confirmed so that all my guests can have a place to stay.  I do hope lot's of people can make it, but I will not be upset if people can't make it, it's understandable being so far away.  And thus continues my journey down impending nuptial lane!!!