I was never sure if I'd ever met a true Narcissist. I mean they are so hard to pick out, sort of like high functioning sociopaths. And there are times in my life I could have been called narcissistic where I was really only concerned with my own feelings, my own self, my own well being. But at the end of the day I didn't only care about those things at the expense of others, I didn't step on others to get where I needed to go, but I didn't let others dictate what I wanted to do.
The scary thing is that Narcissists don't see their tendencies in their behaviour. It makes them very dangerous. Most of the time they will manipulate the truth so that it suits their needs. Do they need some one to be the bully in the story? Do they need sympathy for a fall out of events that occurred? Do they need someone to be the scapegoat for what they forgot to do? Are they not the most popular person in the room and have a desire to be?
I've known girls (and I'll talk about girls because I am one and most of my friends are girls) who have lied about things that were said in a conversation so that they look like the victim, but when you actually ask around you find out that the other sides story is the complete opposites. I've known girls that will hide objects in other peoples places to to make it look like they stole things so that people don't trust them. I've known girls that refuse to take responsibility for their actions. Everyone else and Ever situation is to blame for their predicament.
Now most of this is hypothetical, it's from years of observation teaching in the school systems. But it's also from years of being on Facebook.... Look at your Facebook wall, you will find that you know a narcissist. They may not be a complete narcissist, suffering from NPD, but they could have tendencies, always bitching on Facebook, posting vague statuses about ending relationships, complaining how others can never change, and sometimes you see two narcissist interacting, comedy gold. I've had girlfriends that definitely have had tendencies, and at times were complete Narcissists, but like I admitted I have at times in my life been a bit Narcissistic as well (a point as why I'm not a Narcissist I can admit that I have been there)
But one of the biggest Narcissists I have ever seen was Sami on Days of our Lives. My God that girl text book for many years. Another Narcissist character that's recently been highlighted is Gone Girl, she was a complete narcissist and sociopath (double danger). I know that a friend of mine is dealing with a "mean" girl mom in her real life, or actually I don't know that I just assume it based on her recent pinterest pins. It actually inspired me to write this post because I want my friend to know she's not alone and that sometimes you think you can fight these people but YOU JUST CAN'T!! Their reality is so skewed that any time you confront them in a mature fashion it looks bad on you because they've already told everyone around you that they are the victim and they tell stories and spin tales so well that people fall for their manipulations.
But I am here, I'll listen and I am a great sounding board!! I'll be your supporter if no one else will!! Because no one should have to face a narcissist alone!! Do you know any narcissists?