Status Changes
I often wonder how many of us really talk to all our friends that we have on Facebook. Or why certain people add you as their friends when really you aren't friends you are just two people who mutually know of each other.
Here is an example of why I am curious about this today. About eight months ago a girl I went to school with in Junior High added me as her friend. I knew her to pass her in the hallway but we weren't in the same classes or anything so we weren't even friends back then. But a really good friend of mine married her brother, and so this girl opens a Facebook account and sends me a message requesting I add her as one of my friends. I am now trying to filter my friends so I don't add everyone that makes that request, but I try to be discreet about it. However, because of this girls connection to my friend I felt what harm could come of adding her to my Facebook friends. So I added her. I did this because I don't want to hurt people's feelings by rejecting them in the cyber world if I don't have to.
Now in the eight months of having her on my Facebook I have very little interaction with her. At one point she tried to call my nephew (my friends son) dumb and then called all Americans dumb so I let her know that that may be more insulting then necessary. Especially since I am an American ;).
Yesterday this girl changes her relationship status from Married to single. She only got married six months ago. I sent her a message telling her that I was sorry to hear she was single again, and that I hoped her and the kids were doing ok. She has two children from a previous relationship, but that's besides the point. She responds to my email telling me to not pretend that I care and asks why I stated she was single again. Then she said her and the children were fine.
Now I am not a heartless person so when relationships end it's a sad thing and I do not wish people to be hurting. I treat others as I hope they will treat me. I sent her a message back stating this, because she made it public on Facebook, and I felt that she may be looking for some kind words. But for her to shoot me down and ask why she was single again. Well obviously if you aren't married and you are single, you have become single again, like you were before you were married.
But why would people add others to their Facebook Friend's list if they don't think their comments are genuine. If I don't like someone or don't want to pretend to be friends with some one on Facebook I delete that person. So as this girl REQUESTED to be my friend it is odd her behaviour now. Had she never requested to be my friend I would never have noticed. Sometimes people are just ridiculous.
So my advice, delete people you aren't really friends with or those you don't care to hear about because Facebook, or any social networking site is, an open book into your private world. If you don't want people to be curious as to what is happening in your life, block their access or don't post about it!!!
Here is an example of why I am curious about this today. About eight months ago a girl I went to school with in Junior High added me as her friend. I knew her to pass her in the hallway but we weren't in the same classes or anything so we weren't even friends back then. But a really good friend of mine married her brother, and so this girl opens a Facebook account and sends me a message requesting I add her as one of my friends. I am now trying to filter my friends so I don't add everyone that makes that request, but I try to be discreet about it. However, because of this girls connection to my friend I felt what harm could come of adding her to my Facebook friends. So I added her. I did this because I don't want to hurt people's feelings by rejecting them in the cyber world if I don't have to.
Now in the eight months of having her on my Facebook I have very little interaction with her. At one point she tried to call my nephew (my friends son) dumb and then called all Americans dumb so I let her know that that may be more insulting then necessary. Especially since I am an American ;).
Yesterday this girl changes her relationship status from Married to single. She only got married six months ago. I sent her a message telling her that I was sorry to hear she was single again, and that I hoped her and the kids were doing ok. She has two children from a previous relationship, but that's besides the point. She responds to my email telling me to not pretend that I care and asks why I stated she was single again. Then she said her and the children were fine.
Now I am not a heartless person so when relationships end it's a sad thing and I do not wish people to be hurting. I treat others as I hope they will treat me. I sent her a message back stating this, because she made it public on Facebook, and I felt that she may be looking for some kind words. But for her to shoot me down and ask why she was single again. Well obviously if you aren't married and you are single, you have become single again, like you were before you were married.
But why would people add others to their Facebook Friend's list if they don't think their comments are genuine. If I don't like someone or don't want to pretend to be friends with some one on Facebook I delete that person. So as this girl REQUESTED to be my friend it is odd her behaviour now. Had she never requested to be my friend I would never have noticed. Sometimes people are just ridiculous.
So my advice, delete people you aren't really friends with or those you don't care to hear about because Facebook, or any social networking site is, an open book into your private world. If you don't want people to be curious as to what is happening in your life, block their access or don't post about it!!!
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